Sex and Violence Hey guys, welcome back to sex and violence with rebel girl, where we interviewed top level MMA fighters and other experts in their field about love, dating and romance. And that all too taboo said, I'm your host, Ashley, rebel girl. Now let's talk about sex, and by what's happening the hot stuff?
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What's up on my listeners? Okay, so this is the first show of the new year. I'm very excited. We have an expert. And, you know, this year, I feel like last year, I feel like it was all about healing. And I'd like to say that I'm all healed and ready to go as far as training and my own fight career. But the journey continues. But nevertheless, I feel like this year we shall focus on healing as well, but growing and improving and educating ourselves. And so it's only fitting that this week's guest is a sex expert. She's an acupuncturist and author and an herbalist. But before we talk to her, I want to let you guys know that if you are having problems listening to the podcast on Spotify, we are aware, unfortunately, it is our favorite platform. So it makes us very sad. And I'm sure it's going to affect some of our download numbers and all that. But I've contacted Spotify. You know, I'm just waiting for them to get back to me. So far it works for people out of the country. I know that our editor Nick in Amsterdam doesn't have a problem, listen to the show. But if you're listening right now, that means you've figured it out. We are available on all other platforms Apple pod chaser, pod bean, anything you can think of. We're on there, just not Spotify right now, I guess for some goddamn reason. So sorry about that. We're working it out. And, okay, weekly update with what's going on with my body. We got that facettes injection in my spine last week. Crazy. This was crazy. So I didn't know that there was risk of having muscle spasms. So two days. So the first day, I had a headache. And the doctor said that was normal. The second day, I had another headache. And the doctor said that it was normal actually have one long headache, which is what it was. But the third day, I was feeling good. I felt fine. And I I told myself Okay, tomorrow on the fourth day, I'm going to go for a jog that was that would be New Year's Day. And it's also it was also my boyfriend's birthday. Well, at six in the morning, I woke up in pain like a shooting pain in my neck. I always have shooting pain in my neck. But this was much different. And when I tried to get up out of the bed, I couldn't. So he was sleeping in the in the living room, and I had to yell for him to help me. It was very scary. And the poor guy had to spend his whole birthday taking care of me. And so that was it was just kind of a shit week last week, because as I told you, I was really hopeful after that injection, I was thinking, Okay, this could be it. This could be you know, we finally figured out where the referred pain post surgery is coming from. And then you know, we'll kind of go from there. There's something called radio frequency ablation. And that would be if the first set injection did work. That would be the next step. The first set injection, I guess, is a tester to see if carburizing the nerves in the spine area spinal area would be a good idea. But since I still have pain and then my muscle stiffness stiffened up and all that that's a no go. So I guess we're not going to be doing the radio frequency ablation, which sounds crazy, but I guess it's standard practice for people dealing with C five c six, disk and spine pain. And that's that's where we're at right now guys, I know each week it's probably depressing hearing about my journey, but you know, what the fuck am I gonna do give up? You know, I got to keep trying things. And, you know, we've tried everything from surgery, artificial disc replacement stem cell, which is the same thing, stem cells, something called ozone injections. We just did the facade injection. And, you know, on Monday, I'll be seeing my chiropractor and acupuncturist that I just started working with. And yeah, just trying to stay hopeful. You know, I if you would have told me two years ago that I would be having a year long injury. I would not I have believed you because I've been very knock on wood, lucky to not get injured and not have any really serious injuries that have taken me out of fighting. And so this is hard for me physically, but also emotionally. And so I always get mushy with you guys and say, Thank you so much for tuning in, because this podcast has given me, you know, purpose as corny as that sounds. It's given me busy and making me feel, you know, like, I'm still in the mixed martial arts community, and I'm kind of giving back and helping my other fighters. Yeah, it's a raunchy sex podcast at times. But sometimes we get, you know, we talk about some good issues, you know, things that really, really matter and need a spotlight shone on them. So, with that being said, I don't know what's going to happen with my body. I'll keep you guys updated. 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Anyone who wants to have the best sex possible through the most natural means possible for as long as possible. It also covers common topics of concern such as erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, reduced libido, to name a few. We talk about how to get stronger erections, how to achieve better orgasms, genital acupuncture for better sex, sex in traditional Chinese medicine, date night menus, eating like a chimpanzee, and much more. Here's your guest, Christine DeLozier.
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Unknown Speaker 11:56
All right. We are here with Christine disclosure, acupuncturist, herbalist, and author of the book diet for sex. Christine, first of all, thank you so much for joining us. I'm really excited to have you on but just to learn because who doesn't want better sex?
Unknown Speaker 12:14
Yeah, we all do. Right? Well, most of us. Yeah, sure. I'm sure everyone was for having me on your show. I'm so excited to share with you. You are
Unknown Speaker 12:23
our first author. We've had some sex experts, some, you know, psychologist and a few other experts but never an author. And I'm really excited to talk about the book but also your other work in as an herbalist and an acupuncturist as well. Now, as an herbalist and acupuncturist? Are those things that you got into in order to improve your sex life, or, you know, in your research for better sex and the book, or are those completely different career paths?
Unknown Speaker 13:00
You know, honestly, I wouldn't even I wouldn't say that I started off with a passion for sex, my love back, hey, but I, you know, it was more confined to my relationships that I that I enjoyed it, but I had a patient who came into me one day, and he just asked me if I can help them to have stronger erection, erection. And so I said, Sure, yeah, let's give it a whirl. And I ended up having really, really good results with him. And I had several patients back to back. And they were just so happy to finally have something that was working for them. And it really helped their relationships. You know, the one, the one guy that came in first, it was something that was really meaningful to his relationship with his wife. And after having that kind of success, I decided that this was something really meaningful because sexual health is something that's very difficult to treat, you know, we have psychologists who treat it we have urologists who treat it. And in you know, acupuncture was something that was adding another piece that was actually really an effective option. So that's how I got into it. They were the nutrition came in is because I actually trained to be a research scientist as an undergrad. So so I kind of wanted to see what the science had to say about nutrition, the relationship between nutrition and sexual health, you know, so, I mean, if we think about great stacks, you know, we often think about like the right mood, the right partner, you know, the right situation is, it's like a, like a psychological phenomenon. But in our bodies, great sex is when our nerves are firing strong, rapid impulses to and from our genitals. It's when we have great blood flow, and it's when our sex hormones are balanced. So I wanted to see, you know, what is what does science have to say about, about that about how we eat and how that affects sex in terms of those physiology? medical practices.
Unknown Speaker 15:01
Okay, so you started doing all this research? And how much how much research did you do before you wrote the book?
Unknown Speaker 15:10
Well, it was kind of a challenge for me, I had already been specializing in sexual health with my patients, and I had already kind of been doing a little research to just help my patients, and you know, help them get on a dietary path. But in the book, I mean, I have cited over 400 studies, you know, over 400 scientific studies to support the recommendations in there. So, you know, what we eat very much affects, you know, it affects sex that affects those practices, it'll, it'll definitely make the difference between good sex and bad sex, there's no, there's no question about it. Um, so I did tons. The short answer is I did tons and tons and tons leaving, I think, countless hours looking over PubMed, and, you know, all these different these different studies, but you know, I wanted, I didn't want to write a book about that I wanted to write it for, you know, in a fun, approachable way of the science. You know, I wanted to have everything backed by science, but I wanted it to be for the average person, like for my somebody like my patients, or, you know, somebody else that was reading it.
Unknown Speaker 16:14
Yeah. So besides your first patient, when as an acupuncturist who wanted help with erections, what other types of problems could this book potentially cure or help?
Unknown Speaker 16:29
Well, the biggest complaint among my female patients is difficulty achieving orgasm, and will libido. So those are the two number one thing and you know, when you think about orgasm, we have to take a look at those nerves, you know, we have to take a look at that connection between the clitoris the vagina, and the spine in the brain. When those nerves are firing strong, rapid signals, there's more pleasure, there's more clitoral sensitivity, that the clitoris is more sensitive, it fills with blood more easily. pleasure comes more easily an orgasm is easier and better. So what what the research says is that you know, life damages those nerves, those nerve pathways, you know, they can become more slow and sluggish. Due to all these stressors or environment, you know, a crappy diet, our lifestyles, our lack of exercise, Gui, all those things. But there are certain things that can kind of speed those up. So orgasm was definitely one of them. That's something that my patients come in to see me. For a lot. erections, premature ejaculation, you know, not everybody has, like, you know, erectile dysfunction. A lot of people just want strong directions. A lot of people are just like, I really like sex. I want to have the strongest directions I could possibly have. So that, you know, they come in to see me for that. But those are the main issues. I mean, I see female patients for things like, you know, driving is, you know, menopausal symptoms, that sort of thing as well, you know, yeah, so one guy, one guy had had really rough sex with his partner. And he got just all of a sudden felt this snapping sensation, this was a very young guy in his late 20s, I believe. And he just felt a snap, all of a sudden, and ever since, and he was having weaker erections, and he was having pain. And so, you know, for instance, we treated him to help speedy recovery and stop the pain and help strengthen his direction, and just the healing process,
Unknown Speaker 18:35
and all through diet, or was that a combination of diet, herbs and your acupuncture?
Unknown Speaker 18:42
Well, so I needed to turn him, you know, I need him under his testicles. Were the crossing point of those nerves associated with sexual function? Wow, that was that was the chief kind of strategy for him. I mean, other people respond that to die and acupuncture. In his case, it was mostly acupuncture. That was, you know, our it's like our primary focus.
Unknown Speaker 19:04
Wow. Okay. So before we go into the book a little bit more, I have so many questions about what you just said acupuncture to obtain better erections or heal or increase moisture for women, that kind of thing. Now, you do acupuncture on the general area, or the surrounding area. For men and women.
Unknown Speaker 19:28
Yes, yeah. I'm currently treating for example, I have patients with pelvic pain, I don't always treat the perineum when I have a patient with pelvic pain, but I have one female patient right now who is comfortable with that. So I treat her pair I do needle her perineum. I treated her for a few weeks now. And
Unknown Speaker 19:48
I feel like I should know I apologize. I feel like I should know what the perineum is but enlighten
Unknown Speaker 19:54
you know, this is the thing you talked about genitals all day.
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I'm like do I have heard Does he have a parody?
Unknown Speaker 20:01
Yeah. Yeah, you've got to turn him actually. It's um, it's between the vagina and the anus. There's like a fleshy area there. And or between between the testicles and the
Unknown Speaker 20:13
okay. So in layman's term or I guess what slang? People call that the goose or the taint? Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 20:22
Thank you. Good. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 20:23
Okay. All right, continuing on. Sorry. So you acupuncture. Just for clarification. I'm sure some of my listeners are more educated than I am. But some of them are probably like, oh, you lost me perineum? You know. So,
Unknown Speaker 20:36
you know, I'm sorry, I talked about genitals too much. No, no.
Unknown Speaker 20:39
Let's talk more about genitals. Okay, great. So, the perineum on on the female body? Is it also called the perineum? On the male?
Unknown Speaker 20:50
Yeah, okay, it's the same area. And the reason why it's so important is because it's a major, but underneath the skin, there is a major crossing point of nerves associated with sexual function. So when we stimulate those nerve pathways, we, you know, not only did those nerves get activated, but also we get an increase in blood flows directly in the area. And, you know, it generally just kind of stirs up our sexual practices.
Unknown Speaker 21:19
Yeah, that makes so much sense. I just, I was unaware that, you know, acupuncture was performed in those areas. I'm sure you're well aware that they're doing this new thing. On genitals, men and women called the V or the P shot actually had this done at a local Med Spa here called Restore. And what they did was they drew my blood spun in a centrifuge, the plasma the separates from the blood, and then they reinjected into into my vagina, they, it's called a V shot. And it's basically PRP into your genitals to like, just like you said, stimulate those nerve endings create more moisture, it actually enlarges the, I guess, opening canal, you know? Yes. So that, you know, it's tighter for the male or whatever you're putting in there, you know. So, yeah, that was an interesting situation. That kind of reminds me of what I went through, as far as stimulating the area down there.
Unknown Speaker 22:24
Oh, that's really interesting. You know, it's okay. I hate to admit it, but that's actually the first time I've heard of that. Oh, yeah. I'm interested in learning more about
Unknown Speaker 22:32
it, honestly. Great. Yeah. I like to be on the cutting edge of Yeah, vagina technology.
Unknown Speaker 22:38
I know, I'm personally quite Reedman hardware. You know, especially, you know, and I wonder how the effects compare with what we do in my office.
Unknown Speaker 22:49
Yeah, I would love to actually, maybe, offline talk to you about that. It's super interesting. In here in Orange County, it could be a little bit more pricey, but it's about a $1,200 shot that, you know, last for a few months, and then slowly, you know, goes away over time, you got to get a new one. And I'll be honest, it was painful. It was not fun to get. I got it on the inside of my vagina as well as my, on my clit. So that was, well,
Unknown Speaker 23:20
how would you rate it in terms of effectiveness?
Unknown Speaker 23:24
It was like nothing I'd ever experienced before, you know, because? Well, I mean, I guess I've definitely had a swollen vagina from hearts from rough sex, but it was a combination of, you know, being just tighter and wetter and more sensitive. It was pretty awesome. And, you know, I could I can't afford something like that consistently. But I was so lucky to experience it. And if I had a whole bunch of money, I would definitely get more V shots.
Unknown Speaker 23:52
Yeah, well, now you now you know about acupuncture. So you can, you know, not every acupuncturist is going to, you know, raise their hand said needle people cernium. But, you know, a lot well, you know, most of us don't, you know, don't mind some of us use it more than than others, obviously, at some point that I use all the time. But that would be something that I would imagine would give you very similar effects to what you had.
Unknown Speaker 24:15
Yeah, I'm super excited to learn more of that. Okay, well, great
Unknown Speaker 24:19
$900 $1,200 a visit and is that
Unknown Speaker 24:23
something that you know, I'm sure it takes a few sessions, but instead of having to, you know, get a shot every few months or every year is it kind of like once you stimulate the area down there, the perineum, and, you know, things just kind of start working better or would you have to continue with sessions of acupuncture?
Unknown Speaker 24:43
Honestly, you know, it differs it depends on the patient. You know, if I if I have a patient who comes in, you know, let's say they're like in their 20s are athletic or you know, healthy, in fact, good circulation as it is. The the treatment effects seem to have a much Stronger, long lasting effects. When I see somebody who is, you know, who hasn't had morning erections in, you know, months, or only has like one a week, that sort of thing, it takes a lot longer to it may take longer to see treatments or I've seen quick results even with with those kind of patients, but it may it may be a little bit more difficult to treat.
Unknown Speaker 25:24
Yeah, and I'm sure you know, just like everything, everybody's different, every body is different. And it also you know, let's say you get acupuncture things are flowing, good, feeling good, stay in hard, and then you treat your body like crap. You know, smoke cigarettes, you know, drink alcohol, eat crappy food, I'm sure that is detrimental to you know, what you just did? So? Yeah, okay, I can, yeah, acupuncture
Unknown Speaker 25:48
kind of move things in balance and life kind of move things out of balance.
Unknown Speaker 25:53
Okay, well, in your book, I haven't read it completely. But I've you know, grazed through what I could you talk about something called the trifecta of great sex? Could we get into that? Could you explain that a little bit?
Unknown Speaker 26:06
Sure. Yeah, I kind of introduced it a few minutes ago, when we talked about, you know, what makes great sex in the body, you know, good sex, strong, powerful orgasm. Strong erections is basically when we have strong nerve conduction. And we have strong, fast nerve signals to our turn from our genitals, from the spine and from the brain. And it's when we have great blood flow, and it's winner spectrum surveillance. So the whole, that's the trifecta of great sex. And that's what the whole book is about is, you know, what kind of evidence is there to show how what we eat affects sex. It's not a diet that's distinct from like, a healthy diet or a diet for, you know, other health goals. It's just looking specifically at those things, you know, so for example, leafy greens are one of the best things you can eat because it addresses that whole trifecta of great sex. You know, first of all, it's amazing for your cardiovascular system. It you know, luxurious those blood vessels leading to and from the genitals. It actually even helps balance sexual mode, because leafy greens have been shown in research to reduce the stress hormone cortisol, and cortisol sabotages testosterone. And you know, we not we all know that testosterone is important for, you know, male sexual health, but it's actually important for female sexual health too, it's important for our libido, it's important for overall sexual function. And we it's something that we want to have optimal levels of. So when we're stressed out, and our cortisol is high, it makes it so that we don't want to have sex as much, and sexism is good. So anything that can help us deal with all the stress that we have in our lifestyle, you know, like leafy greens is a good thing. Certainly. So we have, we have tons of antioxidants in leafy greens, which have been shown in research to directly speed up and strengthen those nerve signals. So most of the damage that that occurs to those nerves, which slows down those impulses of pleasure, basically, is oxidative stress. And that comes from, you know, pollution from a crappy diet. It comes from all of the things that we the ways that we abused our body, and even our stress and all those things. So it causes oxidative stress. So antioxidants, that that protects against that. And we see in research, there are quite a few studies showing that when female patients, for example, who have slowed nerves due to type two diabetes, when they increase their antioxidants, their nerve conduction speeds up so the impulses of pleasure speed up and they have better sexual satisfaction and easier orgasms and better clicks world sensitivity, for example.
Unknown Speaker 29:01
Okay, all right. So, you know, I feel like I may be preventing people from buying the book, if I just flat out ask you what exactly is in the diet. You talked about the leafy greens and you know, antioxidants and stuff like that. But I guess before we go a little more in depth. I guess I should ask, How does diet affect our sex lives besides what we've previously talked about as far as erections and loss of moisture, but is there anything else that a diet a poor diet could do to our sex lives?
Unknown Speaker 29:35
Well, you know, our, our diet actually affects us both in the short term, and in the long term, I mean, so, basically, something like a sugary high sugar diet, or sugary foods, even in the short term has been shown in research to dump testosterone so your testosterone will sharply fall after a really sugary meal that elevates blood sugar. So for example, that's one way that diet effects, sex. Really fatty, greasy, especially certain types of fat will stiffen blood blood vessels and make it more difficult to for blood to flow to the genitals, which we all know is really important for sex. And that the cruel joke of all this is, you know, Mother Nature is that those tiny blood vessels leading to the switchboard leading to the penis, are among the smallest in the body. So they're the first to show signs of plaque accumulation. And that doesn't just affect old people, that affects young people, too. Even as in our teen years, we start to develop plaque accumulation, and it builds and builds and builds until, you know, we get old and die, honestly. So the more that we can slow that accumulation of lack of the better because it's going to show up first in our in the bedroom.
Unknown Speaker 31:00
Okay, makes sense? Is there a? Yeah? What's the difference between how diet affects men versus women?
Unknown Speaker 31:09
Well, honestly, it's pretty much the same, very similar. I mean, we have different hormonal ratios that are optimal, you know, different levels of estrogen and testosterone, for example, that lead to the best sex, but getting there via diet is quite, it's pretty much the same. The research, you know, unfortunately, the research focuses more on male sexual health. You know, we don't nobody really cares as much as we enjoy sex, apparently, because our hearts work whether we have blood flow or not, even if we don't like it. So we didn't, nobody pays attention to it. At least not science. But there are some studies, you know, there are some studies. And but generally, yeah, it works the same way. We all want blood flow, we don't want nerve conduction, and we all want a balanced sex hormones. And we know that there are certain certain ways to get there. You know, if you cut out sugar, for example, from your diet, like the refined sugars, that will definitely help move you to more towards ideal sex hormone ratios, which will lead to better sex.
Unknown Speaker 32:11
That's so it's so unfair, isn't it? How, even in sexual education in schools, there's so much focus and emphasis on the male reproductive system and ejaculation and just, you know, the man and everything that he goes through, but there's so little talk of the female orgasm. And I'm hoping that there are current research, researchers and scientists, you know, working on, you know, the female orgasm, because it is harder, I think, statistically for women to reach orgasm than men. But there's so much research for men, it just doesn't make sense to me.
Unknown Speaker 32:55
Right? I know, it's crazy. But you know, what, that's the thing is like, this is a better time than ever before, to be female and want good sex? Because, you know, I mean, we're talking about 100 years ago, it's like, we couldn't even enjoy it, you know, now it's like, oh, yes, you do deserve to have an orgasm. And we're finally starting to open up the conversation, you know, and to our partners and say, hey, you know, go downtown, because I'm worth it. You know, it's like before, it was just like, you just got to complete your wifely duty, a certain amount of time. If your husband goes to church on Sunday, you know, all those things. Now, it's like, you know, we can get laid like it again, man's pleasure, you know,
Unknown Speaker 33:42
yeah, I mean, women's liberation has come very, very, very long way. And, you know, now it's, you know, with social media and just being okay to talk about it. You know, I eat the podcast that I have sex and violence with rebel girl, it's like, it's not frowned upon, or, you know, you may get some people are like, Oh, look at that horror, talking about sex. But generally, it's, it's okay, now, because the more you speak about something, the more comfortable you get, which is the whole premise of the show. I think. One of my things, one of my favorite quotes, I say it a lot on the podcast is, shame dies, when stories are told in safe places, or, you know, I'm thinking we can put that in sexual terms or scientific research, you know, you become more educated and liberated and comfortable, the more you know about sex, so I just want to talk about it. I want to be, you know, kind of the catalyst between you and my listeners and just help people learn more to have better sex.
Unknown Speaker 34:51
Yeah, you know, I completely agree and there's so much people need to really go out of their way to seek education on this. You You know, there is this orgasm gap still, you know, between men and women in you know, yeah, I mean, it is more statistically or you know, scientifically it takes women longer to achieve orgasm. And so partners have to learn about that, you know, it is a responsibility being a kind of lover is to take the time to learn not only about your partner learn about the female body in general. And that's one of the reasons as like a bonus kind of thing I threw in a chapter on oral sex, a detailed tutorial, for some tips for giving oral sex to males and two females. Great, because I think it's just part of being a kind lover in general, I don't think that you can even consider yourself a kind lover. If you don't take the time to learn how to give your partner pleasure. You know, in that way,
Unknown Speaker 35:51
you need to be thoughtful, and you need to communicate, which can be very hard for young males, right? Females. Yeah, traditionally, we like to talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, but it's very hard to get a male, especially a younger male, to ask, you know, does this feel good? Am I doing it right? I think a lot of pride and ego sometimes comes into play. But the more we talk about it, the more we say like, Hey, guys, it's okay. I'd rather have a guy not know what the fuck he's doing and ask, as opposed to, you know, just think he's doing a great job and not want to hurt his feelings. I will well,
Unknown Speaker 36:27
yeah, there's so many relationships, who's who, you know, sex is ruined, because of that ego component. You know, I have a dear friend of mine, who's been married for 20 plus years, or almost 20 years now. 15 years, and his fake orgasms the whole entire time. Because she's worried about hurting his feelings. She's like, well, it's not gonna happen. So, you know, I don't want to make them feel bad when she has sex. And then she goes in masturbate with her dough, to actually have an orgasm. And it's ridiculous. It's like, as a couple, you have to settle that ego aside, you know, satisfy yourself and just think place our partner first, for a time, you know, that's the kind of thing to
Unknown Speaker 37:12
do. Yeah, that's great that you added a chapter on oral sex for men and women. And I just, I, I feel so sad for your friend who's been married for 15 years, obviously, she must love him so much. Because I know I don't know if this statistic is, but I'm sure there's plenty of marriages that end because poor a poor sex life, whether the Spark has died, or, you know, maybe someone doesn't want to hurt someone's feelings. But, you know, I feel maybe I'm over sexualized, but I feel like sex is so important that if it wasn't going well, I wouldn't be able to have a long lasting relationship.
Unknown Speaker 37:47
Absolutely, I feel the same way. But you know, what, I was married for 10 years, and I didn't demand good sex. You know, I mean, I shouldn't actually say that I don't talk about my accent, it was fine. But it wasn't, I never, we never like communicated in an elevated enough weight for, for us to have great sex. You know, it just wasn't there. It was like, it was fine. But it was like once I actually got out into the dating world after being married for 10 years, and started seeing what was out there and seeing that there were people out there who would take the time necessary to please me, you know, women worry that nobody's gonna want to sit there for a half an hour, 40 minutes, getting first of all, it takes us longer, but also ease that, you know, a guy can come in, you know, less than five minutes. The average female body takes eight minutes when she's by herself, like 20 minutes when she's with a partner, and that's after she's fully aroused. So getting from point zero to fully aroused, and then find that thing. We're talking it could be 30 minutes, it could be an hour. And, you know, I always thought I was selfish for expecting that if somebody
Unknown Speaker 39:03
Wow, is that a really a statistic? The average time for a woman on her own to reach orgasm by masturbation is eight minutes. Yes, I'm knocking it out of the park over here if I need to get it done. If I'm in a jam for time, I can make it happen. way quicker than that. I don't know if that's a good thing or what? Okay. You know, I know you did a lot of research, and I guess that's the answers this next question, but how did you come up with this specific diet? And how do you know it works? Because you did the research, did you? I mean, personally tested, did you? You know, hold trials, you know, research trials.
Unknown Speaker 39:43
I tested it on myself on my patients. And then I made sure that every piece of information that's included in the book was actually backed by by science. So there are no recommend every single recommendation in there is based on science. Research, you know, so whether it's nutritional research, medical research, so that there's evidence to show you know what it does, sometimes it's a little bit of a leap. So for example, there, there isn't enough sexual health research that says, for example, leafy greens make for better sex. But there's a whole lot of research saying that when our nurse fires stronger, we have better sex. There's a ton of research saying when we have better blood flow, we have better sex. There's a ton of research stating that winter hormones are more balanced, we have better sex. And then there's a ton of research showing that leafy greens, certain nerve conduction are the antioxidants in them do that leafy greens are one of the best things that you could have for vascular health, you know, to bring more blood flow, and also that they sell its hormone. So basically, I had to kind of connect those two, those two pieces of research.
Unknown Speaker 40:56
Okay, okay. Yeah, because they're there. There isn't the same emphasis on doing research for better sex as opposed to research to cure cancer or something, obviously. Yeah. Right. But you're like, okay, okay, you guys deal with cancer? All figured out how to make things better in the bedroom? Yes. Awesome. I want to take a quick break to thank our sponsor, perfect sports. These guys are always keeping things fresh and being creative with their flavor options. Their newest flavor of diesel whey protein isolate is no different. Inspired by the fall season, perfect has come out with a limited edition, Pumpkin Spice Latte flavored protein. Pumpkin Spice Latte provides a spicy and savory aromatic tastes that can be enjoyed warmed or chilled. Remember, guys, this is a limited edition. So make sure to get your orders in soon, inventory will be going quick. As always, this new limited edition flavor provides you with the same benefits that diesel always does. It's third party tested for banned substances and is the highest quality that protein can be order yours now by heading to perfect sports.com. And using my code, rebel girl for a 20% discount. Now back to the episode. So you know, let's say I grab your book, I start dieting to the tee, per your recommendation, how long would a diet like this take to take effect or for us to kind of see the changes in the bedroom?
Unknown Speaker 42:27
Well, in your case, I would say very quickly because you're you know, your baseline is quite healthy. And you know, so I would say pretty quickly. That what I have in the book, I actually have a date night sex menu as well. So those are all the things that were shown in research to actually have an immediate effect on blood flow. For example, there's actually certain foods that was paid what they do. The president there is research that shows when you eat like a fatty meal, and then they then they measure your actual blood vessels. And they measure how much blood flows through them. They measure how elastic they are. And they actually know that certain foods differ in blood vessels immediately within that two hour window of eating them, like a greasy early greasy meal, for example, or a high sugar meal is going to do that. And then there's certain things that actually make blood vessels more elastic. So a meal that high in potassium is going to do that one is high in nitrates, nitrates nitrites or nitrates like, again, leafy greens, beets, a lot of those pre workout that athletes use to improving increase nitric oxide or a lot of the same ones that will increase that the dilation of those blood vessels in the short term. So you can have an immediate effect. And basically what I've seen from the effect of my patients, when they actually try out the diet for you know, the date night sex menu is that it has it's significant. It's subtle, but significant. So they have, you know, a little bit better sex. It's not like a Viagra pill or something. But it's definitely noticeable is what I've been told. But you know, it's not insignificant. So nitric oxide is what dilates blood vessels. And that's a chemical that's produced in our bodies. There was one study, for example, where they gave people one single serving of spinach, and then they measured their salivary nitric oxide, two hours after eating one serving of spinach. There, nitric oxide was eight times that of baseline. So that's a very significant effect from just one food one serving. So it's not something to discount. You know, when you're doing a DNI ceremony, you definitely want to lay off the Fettuccine Alfredo, which is going to kind of make everything sluggish. And incidentally, if it's going to actually sharply drop testosterone to the fatty meal, the sugary meal will drop testosterone, you want to avoid those foods and you want Avoid, you know, things like a salty meal that's going to also make for poor blood flow and you want to embrace foods, like leafy greens or like, you know, yam with the skin on it, which is rich in potassium, that will help deliver more blood flow. Okay, so
Unknown Speaker 45:17
sorry, but in layman's terms, because I'm not familiar with the benefit of the nitric oxide versus, and what the hell is nitric oxide? You know, I'm just a meathead athlete over here. And so spinach has additional, it helps with nitric oxide. Is that what you're saying?
Unknown Speaker 45:36
Yeah, so there are foods that have naturally occurring nitrates. And there are things like cabbage B, you see a lot of those pre workouts that are beet, beet root powder, for example. Celery, any kind of finished leafy greens, things like that. They all what they do is they have dietary nitrates. And they lead to an increase in nitric oxide, which is kind of the same mechanism that Viagra works on. It's a very similar kind of halfway there. Again, it's more subtle effects. But it basically dilates blood vessels, you get more blood flow. And it also improves the way that your cells utilize oxygen. So you get more, you get better performance as an athlete or as somebody as a performer in the bedroom.
Unknown Speaker 46:23
Perfect. Makes a lot of sense. Yeah, I used to take a beetroot powder, one of my supplement sponsors. Yeah, you know, sometimes I just take things because I know they're good for me, but I don't even know the science behind it. So thank you. Okay, good to know. Yeah. Yeah. So what if someone isn't experiencing problems in the bedroom? They are happy with their current sex life? Should they still read this book?
Unknown Speaker 46:50
Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Because we all can have better blood flow, we all can do more things to slow down the accumulation of that fact that accumulation on our, on our blood vessels. So for example, there was one study where they actually did autopsies on young people who had died either in combat or in car accidents. And they looked at their blood vessels. And it shows that even as early as you know, just high school, we already have, we already started to have plaque accumulation on our blood vessels, which stiffens them and it reduces blood flow. So, it this is, you know, that's really heart disease. We just didn't, you know, we don't see symptoms of it at that at that age. And so, heart disease is always thought to has been thought to be progressive, and not reversible. So they're like you, there's nothing you can do to reverse it. But you can slow down the progress, the progress of it, by eating a healthy diet by getting exercise, that sort of thing. But actually, that's not necessarily true. Recent research has shown that the only foods that's ever been shown to actually reverse some of that plaque accumulation is leafy greens, and specifically, spinach was one of the things that they tested a lot in research, and that actually reduced some of that accumulation to make for healthier blood vessels.
Unknown Speaker 48:20
Interesting. Okay. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. So, I know you are, you know, you're an acupuncturist. And so you're trained in traditional Chinese medicine. And so how does Traditional Chinese Medicine promote sexual health? Because I was under the impression that they actually believe that you should limit sex for good health.
Unknown Speaker 48:41
You know, I had so much fun researching this aspect of it. I have a chapter on actually there's two chapters in the book on traditional Chinese medicine and sexual health and traditional Chinese dietetics as well. And, you know, traditional Chinese medicine says, limit sex because you're depleting your essence every time. It's just for males, every shaman, mela Jacqueline's. However, when I looked at the sexual history, in China, I found that that wasn't always the case. It wasn't until Confucianism kind of took hold in China that that became the predominant medical ideology. Before that. It was believed that more sex was nourishing. So you know, it was believed that the female has In essence, this feminine essence and the male had this masculine young essence and that they both fed each other. And you know, I should say that we all contain yin and yang, it doesn't matter what anybody's gender identity is. We all have Indian young or infinitely divisible and so
Unknown Speaker 49:50
so you could have a female be a yin and another female be the young. Yeah, exactly.
Unknown Speaker 49:55
Yeah, exactly. And then even within the Yin, there's you present within the hen as well. So, you know, we need both to have harmony. And so it was thought that there was this nourishment that female vaginal secretions contained life essence, that would they would then impart to the male insects. So the Emperor's would have loads and loads of concubines second wise, you know, they might have over 100 people that they have sex with every month. And they have these schedules. Because what that the whole point was that they wanted to build up their essence with all the concubines. And then when they had sex with the Queen, only on the full moon, that they would deliver the strongest firm possible to create this smart, healthy heir to the throne. So that so that it was actually thought that more sex was good, and beneficial and nourishing, so that when Confucianism came in, there was a lot of that was a great a period of great political upheaval. And there was a big push for governments to maintain power, and Confucianism was just the tool for that increased control over the private lives of its citizens. Wow. And it was very sexually repressive.
Unknown Speaker 51:16
Wow, where are we at today? I mean, I feel like, you know, we kind of went backwards a little bit and not not today, but I'm saying, you know, in traditional Chinese medicine, like you said, it kind of was the, you know, the more the better than when to Confucianism, Confucianism. And now what, what, where are we at today?
Unknown Speaker 51:38
Most people, most traditional Chinese practitioners will still advise against excessive sex, some more kind of, I don't know what the word is to describe it, some people will also recommend limiting sex, period. But I think that's more, quite honestly, that's, that seems pretty extremist to me. And it's like, especially like in martial arts, and that sort of thing. People will say, you know, you want to conserve all of your essence, for, you know, for other purposes, and that it's depleting your health. So some people, especially people are really, really into extreme discipline, and it makes them feel good to have more discipline and control over themselves will limit. But most practitioners that I know, my friends and things like that, they just say don't have, you know, except that don't feel like jerking off three times a day. Because then yeah, it's gonna tack to your essence, you know?
Unknown Speaker 52:37
Yeah, you know, I asked that question to every athlete that comes on the show, and we interview I'd say, 90% professional athletes, it because it's like, you know, there's this, I think it's a myth, you know, but there's, I guess, some scientific research done and, and you know, more than I, that, you know, you know, kind of ejaculation for the men specifically losing their testosterone is a bad thing. But I asked every fighter, male and female, what do you prefer? What do you like to have sex before big competition, and the general consensus is lots of sex, you know, but just like in life, I say, Do what makes you happy. If you think that having sex before your fight, improves your performance, do that, if you truly believe that, withholding for a week, a week, a day, a month, however long then you should do that, because I feel like our mind is so powerful, right? But I don't know exactly the research, I'm sure you are much more educated. But just overall athletes that are on the show, say they prefer to have sex before the fight, it helps release endorphins. And you know, all those cortisone levels that you talked about previously, as well.
Unknown Speaker 53:47
Yeah, you know, I mean, the thing is, I do think like, at least test it out, I just, I get a little bit annoyed when somebody is advised to do that, and then doesn't see any benefit from it. That's a huge sacrifice to make in your quality of life. Yeah, or something that may not pay off, you know, so I would say to anybody, test it out and see if you're getting results from that before making such a huge sacrifice, because that can put a real strain on your partnerships and your relationships. You know, people who want regular sex don't want to be with somebody who is saving it for three months before the big match, you know, that feels super rejecting and it's not a fulfilling relationship. So, you know, it's a big step, because not only do you give up sex, but you may be giving up your partnerships as well.
Unknown Speaker 54:40
Yeah, and it really is an easy test because we, we spar, you know, we don't spar every every day, but at least a one to two times a week. We have a sparring day, and so you could potentially, you know, you know, guess you know, be abstinent for a month, two months, however long and then and test it out sparring day, and then you know, maybe have sex the night before sparring day and kind of do your own scientific research that way.
Unknown Speaker 55:08
Right, exactly. Well, you don't the other thing too, is that there's different constitution. What we understand is practitioners of Chinese medicine, is it some people that would be more damaging than other people, somebody who already has like a weak kidney in, which wouldn't isn't gonna make any sense to you at all. But that's the kind of a diagnosis that we understand. That's the type of person whose essence would be more depleted from sex, you know, so somebody who's got a very strong, you know, kidney in getting essence, it's not going to have the same impact as somebody who's deficient, you know?
Unknown Speaker 55:49
Yeah, gosh, I feel like I've learned so much and a lot of this stuff. As far as the diet goes, seems when you explain it kind of like a duh, right? Like, we want to eat healthy foods that stimulate blood flow, because blood flow means our nerve endings are firing more nerve endings. Firing means better sensations. So yeah, when you when you talk about I'm like, Oh, that makes total sense. And it sounds like the book is probably an easy read. And the diet sounds, you know, not hard to follow, it sounds like people out there who love their sweets, and fatty foods may need to pull back. But if you want better sex, you know what to do.
Unknown Speaker 56:26
Yeah, and it's got a lot of, you know, it has a plan kind of laid out. And I made it so that it's accessible for people who already follow different diets, you know, so even if you follow a plant based diet, or if you follow using other diets, you can still follow it, the only thing is, there are two things that might be hard to do with, you know, more low carb diet, like keto and things like that. Potassium and potassium is one of those things that is really so important for sex. You know, humans used to get about 10 times as much potassium as sodium in our diets. Now, it's just the opposite with our processed foods. And, and so it wreaks havoc on our blood vessels. But most of the potassium rich foods are also high in carbs, you know, like yams, with the skins on on potatoes, squash, mango, oranges, bananas, all those things have more carbs. So and then the other thing is vitamin C, which is a very powerful antioxidant, which is going to help feed that nerve conduction is hard to get if you're not eating fruit. So, you know, those are the two things, you know, the so it's not, it's not going to be compatible with every diet, but most most diets is compatible with I mean, I eat meat. And I know meat is a great source of bioavailable zinc. But you could there's, there's actually no meat recipes in in the book. I think there's like a couple of fish, a couple of fish or Oh, no, actually, no, there is one steak recipe, but most of the recipes, you know, are just more versatile.
Unknown Speaker 57:55
Awesome. I'm plant based. So that makes me happy. But I do know there's some meat lovers out there. And it's not that you can't have me it's just you know, maybe pull back a little bit, at least for a short time until you see maybe an improvement in the bedroom.
Unknown Speaker 58:10
Yeah, exactly. It's just like, you just want to pay attention to your fat, your total fat content. And so yeah, cuz you know, the fat dip in your your blood vessels.
Unknown Speaker 58:20
Yeah. So I have a question. As you're talking about potassium and vitamin C, I thought to myself, sometimes I don't get the nutrients that I need because I am on a plant based diet. So I supplement. I think, goodness, I have a supplementation sponsor. So all my vitamins and protein and stuff like that. But, you know, I know personally, that it's better to get your nutrients from actual food. But would it be okay to do some supplementation, you know, for better sex as well, like, you know, a vitamin C pill or a potassium pill or something like that.
Unknown Speaker 58:55
Generally, potassium isn't included in most multivitamins, because if you take too much of it in supplement form, it's you can go into cardiac arrest. Oh, you know, you don't want to it's one of those things, that's much better to get from your diet. You know, you can Yan squash, that, you know, things like that. How, on the other hand, something like zinc, especially for, you know, people who follow a plant based diet, if you, you know, culturally, you know, and historically, people who eat grains have always sprouted or soaked the legumes and grains, and there's a reason for it. The zinc in legumes and grains is bound to what's called phytates. And it makes it so our bodies can't absorb them. So if you soak them, it removes all the phytates is going to drain the water, and then you've got a bioavailable source of zinc. And this is something that's really hugely important for great sex.
Unknown Speaker 59:51
Okay, great. Good. So good to know. Yeah. I've heard both things like, especially someone who follows a plant based diet lagoons like You know, super important, super great. But then I've also heard people say stay away from legumes is that because of what you were just saying about how, you know, sometimes it prevents certain things from absorption.
Unknown Speaker 1:00:13
You know, I've heard mixed things about lending to, you know, the predominant research that I've seen is that legumes are a good source of, you know, good things to include as part of your diet. However, some people are sensitive to them, and you can have, you know, some people do have a sensitivity to them. You know, some of my patients who have autoimmune conditions tend to be sensitive to all sorts of things they may be sensitive to, you know, we or they may be sensitive to legumes, that sort of thing, but it's, it's pretty individual. Um, but yeah, definitely the xinxing is a huge one, you really I mean, it's, it's really worth the extra steps. So your soak your legumes beforehand.
Unknown Speaker 1:00:54
Okay. Another question I thought of while we're speaking, is that a lot of this stuff is familiar with me because I'm a professional athlete. And so we talk about nutrients and absorption and all that kind of stuff. And I was just thinking, let's say, you got your Do you ever recommend your clients getting their levels tested? Especially if they're having, you know, erectile dysfunction, or they feel a lack of libido? Because as you said, testosterone in males and female is important for a lot of things, including sex drive.
Unknown Speaker 1:01:30
Yeah, I do. I think that's, that's a great thing to do. And minerals in general, not just zinc, but calcium, magnesium, potassium, are all very important for great sex. And so it is really important to get these from your diet, if you can, I mean, if you start incorporating leafy greens, you're going to add a huge, a huge quantity of those minerals that you're looking to get into your diet. So you won't have to rely on supplements as much. But yeah, getting your level assessed that I think is I think is good. There. The thing about it is with supplements, for example, a lot of the minerals compete with one another. So if you take just magnesium, you can sabotage your zinc levels in your calcium levels, because they compete in the body for binding sites. Does that make sense? It
Unknown Speaker 1:02:29
does, because I actually, I was probably such a meathead. A few years ago, I just took every vitamin that was available to me because my thought process was, well, this is not going to hurt me, these are vitamins, these are minerals. These are things that are good for me. And I thought, You know what, anything that I don't use or have an excess in will just be flushed out in my urine. And then you get the neon toxic waste looking urine. But that, you know, that's the only side effect is what I thought. But then I talked to a doctor this past year, actually. And he said that that was not a good thing to do. Because just like you said, some things counter counteract each other, you know, and cancel each other out.
Unknown Speaker 1:03:11
Yeah, exactly. And so I had somebody who I did, he was a friend of mine, he wasn't even a patient, I just off the cuff said, Oh, it sounds like you need magnesium. Well, I didn't know he was gonna go out and start taking magnesium. He just saw a sudden starting and he didn't even take that much either. It was with like, a regular dose of it. And all of a sudden he called me and he was like, said he had, like, all these signs of hypocalcemia. You know, he's like, my, my heart is like, you know, I can barely feel my heart rate, and it was racing, and it's totally weak, and my lips are getting numb. And I'm just like, and I we finally figured it out that it was the magnesium. But um, yeah.
Unknown Speaker 1:03:53
Yeah. So, you know, I feel like the moral of the story there is take all of this advice with a grain of salt, maybe even, you know, talk to your doctor before doing a very dramatic change. But it sounds like most of these suggestions in your book are are slight, you know, add in leafy greens, stay away from certain foods and stuff like that.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:17
Yeah, yeah, very easy to follow. And, you know, but so much safer of an approach to just try to get it through food, you know, trying to kind of play god or just calculate exactly what you need. can be really tricky that that's the thing and not that it's not appropriate. I mean, sometimes it is, it's very indicated, especially like you said, if you get tested for certain minerals, and you see that you have a certain deficiency, then you definitely want to you know, take your practitioners advice and get a supplementation but when you're when you're going with food, it's it's not quite as is risky to be guests.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:58
Great. Well, the last thing I want do here on the show is asking you a few fan questions
Unknown Speaker 1:05:10
these are questions that I compiled through social media. And we've got about 12345 questions that Okay, sure. All right, so this one is from at tie dot Steven 73. What should I eat to get better levels of nitric oxide consistently? And I'm assuming that's leafy greens.
Unknown Speaker 1:05:29
Thank you. Yeah, leafy greens are like number one, it's my favorite food to eat for better effects. And honestly, better overall health. You know, if, you know, we, we have all these nutrition experts telling us what to eat, you know, we ask each other what we'd like last, our natural instinct for what we should eat for good health, but other animals still have it other animals go right to the exact plant or animals that they need to survive and what, what they need most. So, you know, one of the things I did when reading this book is I, I looked at other primates, and tried to see see what other primates eat in their diet, because we've kind of as humans blocked our instinct, you know, we have all those different advice that kind of conflicts with with each other, you know,
Unknown Speaker 1:06:14
we, like we eat for pleasure versus survival.
Unknown Speaker 1:06:19
Well, we also eat to make somebody rich, you know, we eat to make people rich people have all sorts of products that they market to us, to feed us, you know, so much of what we eat comes from somebody marketing goals, you know, so, that's a, that's a factor too. I mean, especially like, I get appalled, you know, obviously, you're an athlete, you know, you know, we both know, we can see through this, but the average person, you know, might watch TV, for example, and think that, like, granola bars are healthy, for example, you know, covered in sugar, you know, fat, you know, chocolate, but you see somebody in that commercial running around with, you know, a headphones on and jogging, and they're eating a granola bar, and you're thinking, Yeah, I'm going to take care of my health, and I'm going to start eating that too, you know. So, but, you know, other primates, if you look at the animals that are closest genetically to us, he says, like chimpanzees, for example, they sit around eating leaves, all day long, they eat tons and tons of leaves. And in doing so they get many times the amount of things like magnesium, potassium, calcium, and all these great sex minerals, for example. And, you know, so to two of the big ones, I would say, would be leafy greens, and potassium are probably my two favorite choices. So eat your yam, if you change your diet, if you want to just make a small change, maybe try to get a salad in every day, that's a dark green salad and a big yam. With that one meal, you're going to be getting a huge portion of a lot of those minerals, and you're going to be getting about half of your daily potassium, okay, which is huge. So, and that's going to help your blood vessels and it's going to help it indirectly helps then nitric oxide.
Unknown Speaker 1:08:04
All right, at Instagram rod underscore ddH. Are there foods that give you a harder erection and make you last longer?
Unknown Speaker 1:08:14
Yes, so are so date night sex menu are those short term kind of foods that we talked about? Those are the ones that when you have better blood flow, you get a harder erection. So basically, we're talking about foods that have those naturally, you know, dietary nitrates. And we're talking about potassium rich foods, because that helps not only in the long run, it's a good food for overall sexual health. But it's also important for, you know, tonight, like getting busy tonight, and it was and then for Kali females were another one that helped to have more blood flow in the short term. So that night, you know, that's why we have the date night effects and eat. It's like, this is what I made the one time that I actually made my own date night Effects menu. I made some grilled salmon. Um, because salmon, so high fat actually stiffened blood vessels in that two hour window after eating it, whereas a high omega three fat actually made blood vessels more elastic and help bring more blood flow in the two hour window after it. But anybody who's plant based, you could substitute that with walnuts, for example, has the Omega threes. I made a bait acorn squash, I put a few aphrodisiac kind of places on there, and no salt. I didn't put any salt on it. And we had a big leafy green salad with some lemon squirted on it. We had some beet juice. And then for dessert, we had a mango. We had a mango raspberry parfait. So what that did is that's like loaded with all those nutrients that improve blood flow. didn't contain anything that's going to change testosterone in the short term. And so that's like your, it just makes for all the right physiology in chemical balance for for sex.
Unknown Speaker 1:10:16
That's great. I love that in your book not only do you tell people what foods but you also have a date night menu. That's great. At geranyl, sorry, Jeremiah with a J, can you really change the flavor of your come? If you eat certain foods? If so, what are they?
Unknown Speaker 1:10:36
You know, you know how many times I've been asked that question. Everybody wants to know that, you know, pineapple, asparagus, you know, all these different things. I I've been looking at the research and I can't find any good. Any good studies? No. Okay. I don't know. I can't tell you a scientific answer on that one.
Unknown Speaker 1:10:52
It's so funny. It's always a dude asking, like, how can I change the flavor of my calm and I'm like, your girlfriend probably doesn't care what the fuck it tastes like she's not gonna be like, Oh, now it tastes like pineapples. Now I'm doing
Unknown Speaker 1:11:05
well, she does care what your dictates like, you know, she does wash, wash, wash. And that's way more important than Yeah, hygiene
Unknown Speaker 1:11:13
is. Okay, and then this is the last question. It's from an anonymous user. At Oh, yeah. Anonymous, anonymous. Are there any safe foods? Oh, this one is crazy. Are there any safe foods to put inside of you to use as a dildo or a sex toy?
Unknown Speaker 1:11:36
Hmm. I mean, I don't know. I mean, people have been using vegetables since the beginning of time. Honestly. There are certain things that might nap these days. So certain things I've heard stories about or things like aloe, I mean, not that you're gonna use an aloe leaf, but I'm talking about as like a vaginal lubricant. That that was something that kind of maybe I don't know, if it's the effect on the flora, you know, the microbial balance there that it just messed things up, or whatever. But I would say it just has to be washed thoroughly. I mean, it's something that I would imagine would be safe is something like cucumber, that sort of thing, nothing that's going to get lodged in there. And that's very clean. Because remember, you know, thanks, girl on the ground. So they do have microbes on them. And that's not always a bad thing. But you just want to wash and you know, make sure that they're the to visit biggest risks with putting anything in your body is hygiene, you know, introducing foreign bacteria or, or other microbes into the vagina. And then the second risk, is it getting stuck up there? So if you go into the ER, you, you know, most of them have some story about somebody coming in. There's something up there. Okay. Yeah. So, yeah,
Unknown Speaker 1:13:02
I feel like my answer to this question would be, there is no need to put any kind of food into your body, whether it's your vagina or your anus, because there are so many sex toys nowadays, maybe back in the day when they didn't have sex toys, like, you know, many, many years ago. But now it's like, Why? Why? Why would you prefer to use a piece of food versus an actual sex toy there, dildos, and vibrators and a plethora of things, I can send you a link to this person. So that's our last question. Interesting question to end on. I'm so grateful to have all your knowledge. And I hope that, you know, if you come out with another book, I would love to have you on the show again. Is there anything on the you know, table for you right now? Are you doing any book signings or touring at all?
Unknown Speaker 1:13:52
No, not really. Most of the stuff you know, was COVID has been virtual. I do read a blog site for great sex calm, and I write, you know, some articles on sex and relationships, that sort of thing. And then I've got my private practice, but um, no, mostly I'm just still talking about my current book. We'll see. We'll see about a second.
Unknown Speaker 1:14:13
Where are you located? If someone wanted to come in and get their perineum poked?
Unknown Speaker 1:14:19
I'm in Rochester, New York. Okay. All right.
Unknown Speaker 1:14:21
A little far for me, but maybe we'll find someone here. Next time you're in New York. And then,
Unknown Speaker 1:14:28
you know, I know you have an Instagram account. Are there any other handles that you want to share? So we can follow you're
Unknown Speaker 1:14:34
sure. Yeah, I do some recipes videos, for example, on Instagram and Tiktok. So they're both at diet for great sex. Okay. And yeah, my blog is out for great sex and my Instagram and all my social media are all at diet for it. It's so
Unknown Speaker 1:14:51
funny. I. So every week I have a new coffee cup and this week it says, Eat more greens, smoke more greens, make more greens. and it's very funny because I feel like the main topic has been greens on this been my favorite. Alright, my last question to you and I asked this to all of our guests. Who would you like to hear next on sex and violence with rebel girl? It could be a professional athlete or an entertainer or another author. Anyone involved in the sex field? It doesn't matter.
Unknown Speaker 1:15:22
Oh, wow, that is? Ah, oh, my goodness. Um, I don't know. I would have to think on that and maybe text you what some
Unknown Speaker 1:15:33
what someone that comes to your mind that influenced you in your career?
Unknown Speaker 1:15:39
Ah, let me see. Well, okay, so I had read Dr. Michael Greger who
Unknown Speaker 1:15:47
I love I listened to his podcast, how not to? Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 1:15:52
Yeah, I mean, I just thought it was so I love the way every single recommendation he makes. He backs it up with like, 20 studies. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 1:16:02
Yeah. Scientific research.
Unknown Speaker 1:16:04
Yeah, so it's all scientific. So I would Yeah, that would be obviously a good a good guess I'd love to hear him. Because so
Unknown Speaker 1:16:12
funny. You said that I lay like, there's not a lot of podcasts I listened to and that's probably the only educational one that I listened to. Well, maybe not. But um, but yeah. Okay. Thank you so much, Christina. A static I feel like I've learned so much. Thank you so much. And
Unknown Speaker 1:16:29
I'm so glad and I had such a nice time chatting with you. Thank you so much for having me on your show.
Unknown Speaker 1:16:35
All right, talk to you soon. Bye. Bye. Yeah, bye
Unknown Speaker 1:16:41
Thanks. It goes to make you breakfast. Jamaica toast she is butter. She don't use cheese. She dough is Jelly any of these she.
Unknown Speaker 1:16:59
Okay, that's it for episode 80. Thank you guys so much for tuning in. I hope you learned a lot. I hope I learned a lot and I thought I was pretty well versed in sexual health, but I'm gonna buy the book. I don't have it currently. I'm gonna definitely buy it and check it out. Seems like an easy read. Seems like it's well worth it. So thank you guys for tuning in again for all your fan questions. Next week's guest is pretty exciting. She was the tough or the Ultimate Fighter 145 Female winner. Her name is Macy Cesana. She is number 10. Right now in the women's bantamweight rankings. She's She just actually fought Raquel Pennington a few weeks ago. She didn't win that fight. But, man, it was a great fight. And she's just an inner entertaining fighter to watch so I can't wait to get to know her more. We talked briefly and she's very open about her sexuality. And I think she's gonna be a great interviewer. So stay tuned for that one guys. Don't forget to check out our website sex violence with rebel girl calm pick up a shirt a coffee mug something to support the show and a special special thank you to neutron he had to fill in for DJ Zol WE LOVE YOU DJs all I hope you get better COVID Got him but um yeah. And neutron if you want to follow him on social media, you can follow him at n u three. T R O N That's a play on words guys. You see that? Also tomorrow could studio at tomorrow kids official on Instagram. And as always, you can find us on Instagram at sex and violence is Rebel girl and my personal page at Ashley MMA. I'm just gonna throw it in there because I forget to do it all the time. But we have a backup account just because there's Karen's in the world and we get in trouble. So follow our backup account. Just like our normal account at sex and violence with rebel girl but the number two at the end. Thank you so much, guys. I really hope you enjoyed this week's show. I love bringing you you know high level athletes, entertainers, comedians, all that but why not have an expert you know, someone who really knows their shit, and this lady knew her shit. So take what you can from that, guys. Remember, be kind, be grateful. But don't take shit from anyone. So I love you guys and we'll talk to you next week with more tales of sex.
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