Episode 27: Dominatrix "Domonique Danger"
sex
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and violence.
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Hey guys, welcome back to sex and violence with rebel girl where we interview top level MMA fighters, other experts in their fields about love, dating,
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Ashley,
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Hey, are you deviant and naughty listeners we're back with a very spicy episode for you. I wasn't lying last week when I said I was bringing you a guest who would make our raunchy comic Karen sound like a school girl. Before we get to our guests, though, I want to give you guys an update on what's happening with the podcast. As you know, I'm fighting in Vegas on November 28. That's in one week. So to make my life easier, but to stay consistent with our episodes for you guys, we're recording back to back this week, which means we'll still be releasing episodes every Friday like normal. But when you're listening to next week's episode, I'll be somewhere in Las Vegas, sitting in a sauna or a bathtub trying to lose the last few pounds before the fight the next day, yay. But I want to tell you guys how nice it's been to have the podcast to keep me busy while I'm getting ready for the fight. And I know some people are gonna say that it's distracting. And I should be taking, you know, putting more focus on my fi. And you know, it's true, it is a distraction. But we need distraction. Sometimes. As long as you're getting all your priorities taken care of and not stressing out about taking on too much work or, you know, this distraction is actually not helping or whatever it takes your mind off the inevitable, at least for me. So, you know, sometimes I catch myself worrying about things that I can't control instead of things that I can. And I'm sure some of you are guilty of this too. But no matter what I got going on, I think you guys know this already. It is my goal to always stick with you guys and bring you a little Comic Relief or a relatable story or a distraction for an hour or so. And I really love you guys so much for tuning in the past few months. Not not being able to fight due to the pandemic and then you know, my bullshit injuries was really driving me insane. And you guys and the show has helped me take my mind off the state of the world. You know, MMA and my fucked up body. But I'm back baby, and I cannot wait to step into the cage and feel that feeling again. It's truly better than drugs and not like I have ever taken drugs before. But it's uh, it's better than sex. Wait, no, just kidding. It's not better. But, you know, for the millionth time I said this a lot. You guys can watch my fight on ESPN plus, since we're still in no ticket, no crowd sport. And speaking of fights tomorrow, we have UFC Fuck, I hope I get this right to 55 with Valentina Shevchenko, and she's going to be defending her belt against Jennifer Maya. And then we also have another 125 but males title fight that's going to be Figaro defending his belt against OCS very own Alex Perez. This guy is awesome. I've trained with him at Timo Yama. He has worked his ass off for years and sacrificed and he's just, he's a cool, dude. So you know, I really hope that tomorrow we get to see all of that pay off for him. And just like always, if you guys want a T shirt, we got a handful left, not too many. So just dm at sex and violence with rebel girl. And if you want a sticker, we still have those. We're actually getting new ones in. I'll post those on the Instagram, they're gonna be pretty cool. You just do a review or a rating take a screenshot, send it to the DM, sex and violence with rebel girl. And also, this podcast is brought to you by ella parody.com. The adult toy store that strives to inspire and empower women, men and couples of all experience levels and interests. inspiration that can lead to a more fulfilling life through discovery and expression of intimacy and pleasure. Visit ella parody.com and use code rebel girl at checkout to save 15% off your order. Go ahead visit el la pa ra di s.com and use code rebel girl to save money on your next intimate purchase. Now, let's talk to our guests. Today's guest is a brainy bronny Prime beef girl hunk Deluxe, a modern day Amazon goddess and a certified badass with all the credentials to prove it. She's a black belt whose most recent competition was in August 2019 when she became the master to black belt World Champion when she's not competing in powerlifting, jujitsu or bodybuilding. She's a professional fetish provider and dominatrix listen in as we talk about the high demand for pegging the perfect safe word, testicle stomping in its dangers. polyamorous households, small penis humiliation, and more. Here is your guest, Dominic danger.
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You can spank me when I do not be
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makin forehead with a chain.
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Dirty.
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feel pain all over my body?
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Can't wait to
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see. All right,
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we have Dominic on the show. Thank you so much for coming on. How you doing tonight?
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I'm doing okay, how about you?
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Pretty good. I'm about a week out from my fight. So I'm a little hangry lots of cardio and low calories but hanging in there. Yeah, you understand? Because I'm sure you've had to get ready for competitions since you are a black belt in jujitsu. Correct?
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Indeed.
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I'm so excited to ask you all about that. Before we ask you about your awesome job. Can we talk a little bit about jujitsu?
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Absolutely. Cool.
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Well, where'd you get your black belt from? How long did it take you to get it? You know, kind of the normal questions.
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I am a black belt, a one stripe black belt under Romero cavalcante. Also known as Chuck IV, and he is a holds Gracie black belt one of seven. He's also the only non Gracie that gets inducted into the Hall of Fame. Okay, and I have been a black belt for four years now. It took me about 10 years to get it.
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Nice. Yeah, I'd say between like eight and 10 is like the average right? And indeed, yes, I guess you hear about people who got accelerated but then kind of takes the onus off of the black belt right
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now of Alliance. I'll tell you that.
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So how did you get into jujitsu?
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I actually got into jujitsu from the job, I was getting exposed to sketchy situations. And I figured you know, some self defense would do me some good. Because even though I did have a chaperone to some of the gigs that I had, over time, it became I had to grow to be more self reliant. And as part of the services that we offer under this umbrella term known as fantasy wrestlers. I have come in touch with a lot of girls on the scene who had who had experience in martial arts or another. And it just seemed like initially, in addition to wanting to expand on my repertoire of skills, I also needed the self defense aspect of it. So I contacted a few local academies. And when I came to Alliance, I don't know it just it just felt like a good vibe for me. I mean, I feel I felt like I fit in from the first from the first day. But I was a private student. So I hired instructor who was a brown belt world champion at the time, Chris Moriarty. And we did some privates together. And over time, I realized that I really loved the sport because as a strength athlete, I came from a completely different discipline. And I really enjoyed that change of pace, and that's when I joined the school and the rest was history. Really. That's awesome.
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I know you also compete in bodybuilding and powerlifting correct.
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I used to I retired from the bottom bodybuilding stage in 2006, but I continue with the lifestyle because it's a way of life for me. My strength training, I transitioned actually from women's bodybuilding into Olympic weightlifting. I'm an Olympic weightlifter primarily really. So I got recruited by john Coffey. He's also a Hall of Famer in the sport of Olympic weightlifting. And as a super heavyweight, he looked at me on stage and he said, You were built for performance and not aesthetics. I'm like, man, thanks a lot,
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thank you.
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But he was kind of right, because I was very bottom heavy. And I my symmetry was really off because I'm very low, lower body dominant. And so I competed for him for about seven years. And from there, I transitioned into women's powerlifting, where I set a world record with the APC and the 90 kilo class and got my elite total from my very first meet. I retired. I'm sorry, what was that record that you said, I have a 560 pound deadlift 540 pound squat and a 300 pounds. Robin Shay, the global powerlifting. Alliance? Yeah. retired from that in 2013 to focus exclusively on Jiu Jitsu, because I had been doing that in conjunction with everything else, but it's sort of the sits on the backburner for me. And I lost my sponsorship as a lifter because they weren't willing to cover my expenses as an athlete because they covered all our medical expenses to compete. And I just wasn't, I wasn't willing to give it up. I love the sport so much. So I started to sneak around to get on the mat. And then before you know the fact that Yeah, they found out that I was still training and I lost my sponsorship like that. So
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well, that says something about you how much you love Jiu Jitsu that you're willing? Absolutely.
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Yeah, it does. And I'm not saying you know, that I'm a good as good a Jiu Jitsu practitioner as I was a lifter.
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Yeah. At the end of the day, you have to do what you love no matter what. Yeah, exactly. That's great. Well, so that's interesting, that, you know, I know you are a very fit woman has, you know, you said you got into Jiu Jitsu, because you felt like you might get into a compromised position with one of the clients did that did something like that ever happen where you felt afraid for your safety.
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There have been incidents over the course of the 15 plus years, I've been at this where I have felt uneasy, let me say this I people, usually, they undergo a very extensive screening process with me, and over the years, I've perfected it, I don't run into many issues, I'm also expensive. So I'm highly less likely to run into people who are going to waste my time or who are there to cause any trouble when it comes with such a hefty price tag. Plus, you know, a lot of the money is their deposits that are submitted at first and then the money is due in full before I session with anyone. So you don't run into issues unless you're, you're you know, you you, you're off with your screening. And if you don't collect beforehand, the couple of times when I'm I might say that I had to resort to physical aggression to restrain someone. I mean, it does quite help that I am a bigger girl. So I haven't really yeah, it's really does help. I mean, as a super heavy. I mean, I've been a super in every sport I've ever played, which it is what it is, but I am on the you know, on the larger end of the spectrum. So most of the men who gravitates towards, you know, this type of entertainment, if you could call it are generally not Well, I mean, it could go one of the one of two ways they're either extremely lighter than myself, or on the much heavier end and a much heavier boys. Usually, they treat you like a puppy with it with a new chew toy. So there's they're just to have fun, because nobody's going to take on a big motherfucker, but me. Yeah, you know. So I don't give any drama. I don't give them any issues. I don't usually ask about the weights unless we're doing a lift and carry type scenario because a lot of guys like to be picked up and walk, you know, and just carried around it is a thing, believe it or not. So, yes. And, and I won't offer anything competitive unless somebody has had some kind of formal training.
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Okay, so let's backtrack for the people and myself who are just a little bit ignorant to the fetish world. So let's try and explain your your actual job title. You're a dominatrix and a fetish provider. correct? That is correct. And so what's what are some of the services that you offer? I mean, I kind of did my research on you extensively. So I saw a long list and I was like, wow, there's a lot more categories than I could have even imagined.
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Hey, let me say this. There are a lot more categories that I discovered new categories every day, even though there wasn't a person fetish, what, like an apron thing. I specialize in three main things. They are stumbling across Alinea and FMG. FMG stands for female muscle growth. And this is where the crossover between my profession and my sports comes into play. So the way I look is a huge factor in the amount of money I charge and the kind of services that I that I offer. So primarily everything to do with female strength female muscle, female muscle growth is my area of expertise. However, you know, the the realm of fetish is very broad, as you know, and it's, it's, it comes with the job, you know, it comes with the job description, it I won't say that a lot of the things that I offer are things that I enjoy per se, but they it's territory I have to cover. And I mean, I'm very accommodating. in, in, in, in, well, I accommodates most all requests, I try to veer on the side of caution when we we deal with more bodily excrements or blood or or brown golden showers of any kind, like I try to I try to I'm a little more cautious where that is concerned. And I reserve an edge. Yes, absolutely. And I reserve certain edge blade for for my my consistent clientele like my regulars. What does it exactly? Say that again?
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What does edge play?
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Well, edge play can be a variety of things that where you're pushing the envelope a little further than what is deemed safe, quote unquote. So a lot of times, you know, I have I do offer a waiver and a medical release so people have to sign
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away. So
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the laws don't protect me from that they don't protect us they it's it's it's a formality, but you have to you have to bear in mind that there are certain injuries that will get you locked up. For example, CBT like talking ball torture is something that's most men, a lot of men really enjoy. And again, they're not stomped, so don't ask me why, but they really do. And some of them are resilient as fuck like you think that guy had balls of steel, because if you ruptured one of his testicles, it's not going to look at you. You could do time for that. Because if he dies, this is it's a murder charge. It's not vo we were playing. And and he happened we pushed it a little too far. But he has we he signed this waiver. It doesn't work that way. Yeah. So I have to be cognizant of that also has to be aware of the state I'm in and the service that I'm offered and whether or not you know, there are legalities surrounding that. So.
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Okay, wow. So there's just a plethora of services you offer most of them but you try to tread lightly with the bodily excrements and the extreme painful ones that could border
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Hi, welcome extreme painful. I absolutely do. In fact, you know, I, I have a preference for heavy masochists because I do have sadistic tendencies. Over time, I've realized that it is in a way. very cathartic for me as well.
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And hence jujitsu token people are bars and joint manipulation, right?
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To some extent, right.
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There. So I'm like, am I, if I have masochist, we will, you know, like, Wait,
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am I be some extent, I think we all are a little bit of both. Yeah, occasionally contact sports especially.
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So I wanted to ask about clientele. Obviously, I'm not going to ask about any names. But who would be you know, I'm sure it varies, but like, if you had to create a profile for your average client, is it male, female age? does it vary?
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It absolutely does. And it has it has fluctuated over the course of the past decade. I started out with a much older clientele. The gentlemen were easily in their late 50s 60s retired. And not not not so much. I mean, I'm talking more of an age an age group. As for appearance, they really do vary. I mean, they from all walks of life, all ethnicities. There is no there you can't exactly profile them according to their looks. But the past few years, the clientele has gotten significantly younger, younger to where I've had to actually ID I think I think with the internet making so much shit accessible. You know, I think we've become a lot more popular than we used to be. Because when I started out, nobody even knew that that kind of thing even existed not so much, you know, fetish or kink, but just the whole umbrella in under femme DOM, which does deals with female athletes who cater to the, the female muscle aficionado or the female strength enthusiast. And, and it's funny because I've sessions all around the world and I will say this, it is they're very consistent in, in their, in their kinks. Like it doesn't matter on which continent I am or what someone's sexual orientation or political affiliation or religious belief system is. They all possess a very common trait and it is, um, you never know really, where the fetish or the kink stems from, it's usually something in someone's childhood, but at the end of the day, it does, it does provide them with a release in a way an emotional one. They they, they they require acceptance, if you may. And you you prove I what is what I do is I through kink I provide this medium, it's a safe space for self expression. Hmm. So they do all yeah, it's not just it's not so aside from wanting to have a good time, a lot of these people are looking for a healing experience as well.
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Wow. So it's not just a sexual release. It could be an emotional
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Oh, absolutely. Not a lot of times, no, kink does have an underlying sexual connotation for sure. And, and, but you'll see that some of the really hardcore players don't really gravitate so much towards the women who are easy on the eyes, or the prettiest ones, they look for experience and they look for actual training, like Who did you train under? What is your training until What is your forte you know, what will you do? What will you not do as you come with references? So yeah, so the the heavy players usually look for a skill sets, they don't care so much about your aesthetic. I mean, it's wonderful if you were to be able to provide, you know, the eye candy and you're easy on the eyes, I'm sure. But these days, you have this influx of women who have gravitated towards the business from you know, from the from the escorting business or the stripper strip stripping business, or you even have you know, ladies offering full, full, full service. Well, in the enjoyments of full service,
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full service, meaning like simple sugars
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is prostitution based. Okay. Well, in some states with none others got it.
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Is that something that you offer?
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I do not offer full service? No. Okay. So I don't judge of course, but I always like to put that out there. Because, you know, as a dominatrix, you know, there's a very negative connotation that comes with this line of work, and those who are in the know, know that we did start out in brothels back in the 1800s. And over the over the centuries, we've been able to elevate ourselves and take ourselves out of a whorehouse basically, and, and put ourselves in positions of power and authority in society and educate ourselves to where we could appeal to a different demographic, if that makes any sense.
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Yes, that I mean, I love that you, you know, like you just said you put yourself in a place of power and made it work for you. So that's, that's great. So is it rude to ask how, how much per session? Like obviously, there's, you know, the the bodily fluid, things probably cost a lot more than lifting carry correct?
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Well, there's a flat rate, the going rate for a, a fantasy wrestler is the same as a professional classically trained arm, which is about 275 to $300 an hour. But because I have all the extra bells and whistles, you know, with a laundry list of you know, a resume with credentials, I'm also actively competing, so my resume is always current. And I also offer I do have the aesthetic as well, you know, I'm physically very, I'm bred for, I mean, I'm bred to destroy some shit, basically. So yes, so that adds, that adds an extra hundred by the hour for my hourly rates for all basic services. And that would include things like muscle worship, or even even though muscle worship is probably the least demanding or taxing on you physically, but it's unfortunate but it does it is the same rate as a lift and carry session. If someone were about 240 pounds, they needed to be overhead pressed, same fucking rate, believe it or not, so I tried to make it. I try to be fair, I mean, there are some girls who will offer like a cap off like if you're over 200 then we're gonna charge more and some girls won't even see guys over 200 pounds. Yeah, I've never really had a cap but I do have a cap on certain, certain lifts that I perform, especially when I'm sessioning back to back I don't have the necessary equipment to warm myself up in order to To perform certain lifts, so I'm very cautious with that. And anything that is more risque. If we're venturing more into like anal play or any kind of strap on service, that's usually 500 an hour if I'm doing the enema, you're at 600 an hour. And I'm also I prefer to our bookings, for anything strap on related. It's especially for someone's first time because it's generally not a very successful endeavor from you know, from your first go, since they're usually very nervous, and then their heads about it. And I don't want to spend a whole hour into it and charge that much money without at least being able to get them in the right headspace for something like that. Because it's a very big, big leap for certain men to venture into this into that realm because of the stigma associated with men wanting things up their ass because a lot of you know, I mean, I'm trying to be politically correct here, but but men who like things in their astronaut necessarily gay, you know, but you can't tell it. You can't tell a straight man that you can't tell an alpha male. Hey, if you like something you're asked, you're not fat. You can say that. Yeah, I mean, yeah, the associates have anything that's if it's if it's exit only then it's, you know? Yeah.
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I mean, the man the morning males have a G spot in their anus. And, you know, I, I've never, you know, explored that but like, if I was a male, I feel like, I'd be missing out on a lot of
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work in our midst.
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But you know what? I might, okay, you know, Anyway, moving on. So, you said earlier that there's a lot of misconceptions about the profession. You know, obviously, like, I see you, your dominatrix. You know, you're very aesthetically, you know, like strong and, and I'm like, Wow, she's probably, you know, when I first talked to you kind of like our pre talk. You were so sweet and so nice. And I was like, wow, what the fuck was I expecting you to be like, Hello?
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Yeah, very true. What
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are some other misconceptions? Besides, you know that you're not a you know, me, I
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get this all the time. All the time. When people just take five minutes to have a fucking conversation with you. It's just you so Nikes you shouldn't you shouldn't hide that I'm like most like, I'm don't hide. I don't. It's like nobody realizes I never hide how fucking friendly I really am. And, but the thing is, is a lot of people don't find the things they they don't find very approachable because they don't understand. And people usually they shy away from things that that are foreign to them. It's it's just so outside of anyone's comfort zone to see a woman who would have a desire to look the way I do, and be a functional member of society and not have you know, any like sexual identity. I'm not going through a sexual identity crisis. I don't want to be a dude or something. I get that a lot. Are you sure you don't have to dip down there. I'm like, I got all kinds of dicks. You're not gonna bag. You can take your fucking thing. But this isn't between my legs. I was born a biological female. It works perfectly well, just like anyone you've ever seen. Right down better. Yeah. So um, so in addition to people misconstrue because people think that a dominatrix can be should be the a man hater or a lesbian. So not true. Because, first of all, I enjoy men tremendously. And I don't like I don't like labels very much because I feel that they hinder someone's ability to just kind of grow and especially in sexual expression. And so when you when you label something, because the Kinsey scale if you know Yes, psychology, yes, instant scale, you know, you have, it's human sexuality is so fluid. And so there are times when I would find myself, you know, maybe leaning more towards wanting to be in the company of a woman. But most of the time I can give you like the majority of the time I enjoy the company of men primarily. And so I entertain them for a living. So in all daddy issues aside, because we'll get to the daddy issues at some point that everybody wants to know about fucking daddy issues. You know, it's still, it still hasn't, it doesn't come from a place of anger. It doesn't come from a place of a desire to belittle or humiliate. Now, you have to understand that there are some men who enjoy being humiliated that Who am I to judge, they wants to be insulted. They want to be put down, they want you to tell them they have a small day. He wants to be made to feel like that. So I mean, and hey, it's supply and demand. It's part of the job description. But I don't venture through life you know, trying to nitpick through all my friends and go into you know, you lipstick motherfucker, no, I'm not there to insult men, or antagonize them or put them down. Because I know enough as it is, my sheer existence is, is a threat enough to most, you know, to most men. Because most because most men are just wired to think and believe that women have to conform and look a certain way and they have to engage in certain practices and not others. And so we're just held to such different standards
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require girl.
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Right? And so when you when you venture outside of that people just don't know what to make of it. It's just some people are extremely drawn to it. And the one thing I get that so often, you know, some men look at me and they go, I have you give me a very uncomfortable hard on, like the uncomfortable hunters like, it's like should I am I gay? Do I need therapy? I'm like, see you You can't even let yourself enjoy. Yeah, but you know, there's something maybe less traditional about what you're looking at. Okay, so you can actually appreciate the work and the work ethic that it takes to be where I'm at and do what I do. Yeah, and because certain men don't even allow themselves to feel drawn to this they won't even let you know. They're so closeted about it because it's so taboo. Nobody wants to tell you that Oh, I like a big bitch who that has guns bigger they she can fucking pull more than I can. Nobody no man most men are not going to want to say that but here they are paying for fucking hundred bucks the fucking hour just to watch we do it without with in private and they won't even tell us all about it. Yeah,
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well you know there are men out there cuz you're making money you're making a living so you've named
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business
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so who what type of person can be a dominatrix you know like could I could the girl next door? What what kind of personality traits Do you have to have a fucked up background? Can you have a happy home life? What does it take and who do you think could never be a dominatrix great
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question I made a post about that not too long ago and I went on this on this tirade because there are so many women that I come across who reach out to me with a desire to train underneath me so that they could offer the same services so the dungeon locally the Atlanta dungeon I'm an independent but I obviously you know i network and so we're friends with with the local dungeon and so I'll send goes to the dungeon to get trained. If the dungeon we're recruiting at the time. Now you will see that there are we they don't really necessarily turn anyone away because it's money for the house for the for you know
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what, sorry? What exactly is the dungeon? Like a training facility
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House of Pain, it's a facility Yes, an establishment where that is fully equipped. Dom's will rent out the space by the hour and pay cuts to the head massage. Okay, okay, cool, if they don't have their own fully equipped space at home, got it. Um, and so, I've come across women from all walks of life, obviously, because there's something very empowering and sexy about a woman who can like, who can wield this sort of, like the sexual power over a man, every woman wants to possess that. But it's unfortunately not in every woman's wiring, not every woman is capable of finding that that assertiveness in her that it would take to engage a man on that level. So there are women who are not naturally dominant. And I have seen them run very successful businesses because they're very beautiful, okay, so they can get away with not being very authoritative. Because at the end of the day, the man secretly knows that if he were to turn turn it on, or if he needed to, like, he knows that he possesses the physical ability and prowess to, to, to have the upper hand in a scenario. So he's really just there because, you know, it's like a, you know, he just enjoys probably a select service that she might offer. And she probably is easy on the eyes. I've known a lot of women who do who offer these services who are not dominant in their lives, like they're not, they're not that they don't live a female lead relationship at home, the man is still head of household, they're very beta to their husbands. So you'll still see them and they more engaged in the swinging scene. So a lot of people think that swingers are kink but they're not. So now background wise, I find that in my experience, no, you don't necessarily have to have a fucked up life. To be an assertive, strong, commanding woman, you absolutely don't, in fact, some very, some very solid households where the where parents have spent time raising their daughters, and have nurtured that side to them. Basically. justing myself here, so and then so households that take the time to nurture their daughters, the daughters grow up to have to not to take shit from anyone. You don't have to be, you know, a victim of some kind of abuse so that you could find it within yourself to just kind of rebel against whatever, whatever broke you. So no, I mean, they're rare, but they're out there. I think that dominance women are born though I don't think that you can teach a woman to be to be an alpha. You just can't teach that. Like you either have it in you or you don't you just but what some women do need is a guiding hand in order to find that within themselves because society teaches you otherwise. Yeah. And because you know, you have, you have also environmental influences that always, they don't aim to put a woman or make a woman feel like she can step up and be in a position of authority. I have always Yeah, she has to feel like she's secondary, in a way. So, um, yeah, so I enjoy training women, and to be honest with you, like the submissives, that I have the females that have come my way. And when I say the term coloring, it's a term we it's a term in the BDSM community that would that were a dominant will offer a collar, you know, to a submissive and it's more of a token or a
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it's a representation of this commitment that you take with that you make to someone. And so they are training collars. And then there are like, there are, there are permanent collars. So the female subs that I take on are never really submissive by nature, they are I find them to be I find, I find them I enjoy women who are enjoying the young alphas who just need, they need solid footing. So they need someone just help them find their way. So just show them the ropes. So they might be submissive to me in the sense that, you know, they as a mentor, you can think of it that way in vanilla terms as a mentor. They look up to me and they aspire to do what I do and to be where I'm at and to wield the kind of command that I that I that I wield today. So I don't generally keep people who are completely spineless. They just don't do anything for me. And but they exist. They're completely spineless fuckers out there that make them Nazi ating. To me, I just at least you know, when it comes to, to women, I don't. And I tried to think of myself as a fair dominant in the sense that I like to nurture traits and people that they like in themselves. I don't necessarily want to mold someone to be something I need them to be. But it's important for them to be someone they want to be sure that they can find their path and they can make an informed decision on whether or not being under my care or in my entourage is something that is beneficial to them. Guys,
Unknown Speaker 37:17
these collars real quick. These are women that you are like you said, mentoring, they're not clients of yours, correct?
Unknown Speaker 37:24
That is correct. They are not clients, do
Unknown Speaker 37:26
you have female clients?
Unknown Speaker 37:29
You know, and all these years I had I was a sex chatline operator for a while I had a woman who would call me at eight o'clock in the morning from under her desk to get off on Monday morning. That was it. That was the extent of my interaction with the female community, the only time a woman might be involved is if her husband or boyfriend is involved. And that's because I do a lot of couples work. And so generally, you know, if the woman, the man, and I and I take my time also, I spend a lot of time with the woman first because it's important for me not to accept a gig where I feel a man is imposing himself on a woman and she doesn't want any involvement at all. Yeah, because a lot of women will do whatever the fuck man wants, so that they could keep him you know, I mean, Hey, I got a man he likes to run around, I guess, you know, if I go with him, yeah. But he won't lie to me. So things like that. I don't condone any of that. Because if a woman is not there of her own free will, because she has a natural curiosity or, or an interest in just maybe learning how to do something from me so that she could make her bedroom life a little more exciting. I welcome those kinds of scenarios. But I'm not going to be someone who's going to sit down and watch some bitch sitting in the corner, you know, pouting. And, yeah, she really doesn't want to be there. And, and, and it's all about, it's never about the guy for me, when a woman is involved. I'm sorry, guys. I always put the ladies first.
Unknown Speaker 38:55
How much of your work is on a personal level? I mean, you know, just hypothetically speaking, a male comes in, do you spend any time talking to him about his life? Or do you just get straight down to business? Like, is that part of it? Or do you is it extra, if you want to talk to you?
Unknown Speaker 39:14
Well, I try to do all of this, this Inquisition part as part of my screening depending on the services that I'm I will be rendering. I'm selective on the on the sessions that I take I'm very lifestyle, which means that there is a lot of there are elements of play that are personal to me. So it's important for me to know who I'm engaging in that kind of play with, because at the end of the day, it's a job for me correct. So I don't want my job to rob me of what I enjoy doing in my personal time. And a job will do that the job will kill any enthusiasm you have for the kind of shit you'd like to do on your own free time. Yeah, and I saw that in sports like when I was, you know, I had to I had to travel with on a team to compete at the top level as an Olympic weightlifter, when I came to jujitsu, it was such a breath of fresh air because it was because lifting became my job. It was a job, I had to be on the platform at eight o'clock in the morning, we had to train twice a day, you know, we had to eat a certain way it was we, we, it was it consumed every aspect of my life. I didn't have any, any downtime to do anything, any extracurricular activities, or engage in any kind of hobby that I might enjoy. So just it was just such an amazing breath of fresh air, and which is probably why I clung to it for dear life. When I when I first joined the Academy, because I needed that outlet, I needed something not to rob me of my love for sports, or for lifting to be, if you must,
Unknown Speaker 40:43
yeah, so when you slice the cake, sorry, I'm sorry to cut you off. I just was going to ask, you know, you're talking about your personal life. And, you know, you don't want them, you know, you don't want your work to take away a pleasure of your personal life. Do you? Do you make it a point to differentiate the separate the two? Meaning? I mean, I want to talk about kind of your dating life, you know? And,
Unknown Speaker 41:10
you know, if I compartmentalize, well,
Unknown Speaker 41:13
yes, yes. How does your job ever affect? How you know, the the men that are men or women that you seek? And how does that work? Well,
Unknown Speaker 41:26
let me just mention that you asked me about the screening. So yes, I do take the time to ask to talk to people about where a certain kink has come from for them, and how much experience they have in a certain practice. So yes, I do take the time to discuss these things with people. And it's important for me to know where things come from for people, because that helps me also deliver on a on a service a lot, a lot better. Yeah. Because if I know what, where it comes from, I can I can tailor the session or the experience to, to evoke a certain kind of emotion or to elicit the response that I need in order for him to find the fulfillment that he seeks. Yeah. So that being said, I tend to do that a lot in my personal life. I mean, I'm very nurturing, and I'm very, very loving and motherly to the, to the people in my, in my immediate circle. And so it's not that it's there has, I've learned through my job, believe it or not to be more patience and tolerance, and to be a better listener. And, and I do, I think that my job has has contributed very, very largely in how I've been able to develop certain attributes about who I am as a woman. And so yes, I compartmentalize very well, I don't, but I also I'm realistic. So I understand that I have a sexual appetite that might not align with most of society's or most, you know, most people, but then again, most of my decisions in life has been like that. So this doesn't stray too far away from what I'm accustomed to. I've always been, you know, a little rough around the edges. I was a tomboy growing up. I like playing with boys. I love playing with boys. I always wanted to be better than them at everything. It's like it's I don't because that because, you know, I went to an all girl Catholic school. I didn't even see a boy since I was fuckin 14. It was. It was Yeah, it was a nightmare. So in the neighborhood, when the guy when the boys were out playing, I always wanted nicer toys, just so that they would notice me so that they would involve me or include me in their play. It started out with me being the only girl in the in, in, in my neighborhood taking the boys on piggyback rides, because I was strong enough to do that.
Unknown Speaker 43:43
For a long time.
Unknown Speaker 43:44
Yeah, so I've been playing with these fuckers for a long time. Some things never change. I've just kind of evolved along the way. And my dating life is very difficult as a result of that, because I don't necessarily, you know, I don't break out you know, the whips The minute I am trying to Yeah, no, I don't do that. In fact, I never mentioned my work ever, ever. I know it is I prefer they not know because people are so they take kink so lightly that they think that it's just a fun time. Like, oh, you're into that. Yeah, well, we'll get you all your coughs and all your weapons, we're gonna know what doesn't work that way. I'm never gonna do that. And I'm never going to show up on a date and bring, you know, pull out my leather and all my toys because it doesn't that's not going to do it for me, first of all. Second of all, I understand the kind of headspace that I need someone to be in and how much I need to connect with them and on what level I need to connect with them on. In order for me to want to engage in play in order for me to want to show you all the fucking bells and whistles You know, you're not, but people look at me. And the funny thing is, is I was I was on Tinder and Bumble for a little while and I yeah, I just got to spend it on both. I'll tell you about that. Yeah, yes. Yeah, no Spending
Unknown Speaker 45:02
congratulate?
Unknown Speaker 45:03
Oh my god, it's just it's a nightmare. But um, so yeah, so I never ever put any pictures out there that are kinked that are in any way hint at what I might be into. But they take one look at the muscle and just automatically like some people are just conditioned to they're wired to think that if you look like that, then you must be into some funk shit. Like, if you want to walk around, you know, a 200 pounds jacked, then you have to be into something. So that sets them on a course where they start asking too many questions. And then I like to say, well, when people ask me, what do you do for work? I say I'm an entertainer, and interested in doing what's well in the adult business. Okay, and they love doing what So one question will lead to another and then it's a domino effect. No, I can say like, I'm in. Like, it's funny because I could say I'm in sales or, or consulting. I mean, you you can't get away with any kind of because I also don't want to I don't want to engage someone and get off on the wrong foot and then have to break the news if we did get along.
Unknown Speaker 46:09
Yeah, I don't want to meet you where you told you know, a prospective partner about your work and they were turned off or, you know, rejected you because of that.
Unknown Speaker 46:21
Sure. But I definitely don't wait to tell them that maybe we might be talking for a little while. And then it might come up before we've actually had the time to get to know each other on a more personal level.
Unknown Speaker 46:32
Yeah, yeah. Well, just because before you said, you know, you don't bring it up. But then it's like, you know, yeah, what if someone really starts to like, no, not
Unknown Speaker 46:39
in the profile bio, I will bring it up. Yeah, no, none of that. No, no, just jujitsu? Yeah, I like puppies and fucking cupcakes,
Unknown Speaker 46:47
folks. You get suspended if your bio is puppies and cupcakes.
Unknown Speaker 46:52
Oh, no, no, because honestly, the puppies and cupcakes stopped working so I realized that if puppies and cupcakes are not getting the fucking late then maybe I could just just maybe if I put the truth out there let's see what app
Unknown Speaker 47:03
What did you tell me? I
Unknown Speaker 47:05
could literally I just said hey, any boys want to get pegged? That's it. That's all I said. But why is that? Yeah, look at that. That is you can't see that. You can't fucking say that. But you can be on there and say hey, I'm a sugar baby looking through a sugar daddy you can say that shit. You know you can say that. But you can't say hey, I want to bend over you can't say that. Why don't you guys
Unknown Speaker 47:24
got a big dick for you or something like that? Nope. I
Unknown Speaker 47:28
didn't even wasn't even
Unknown Speaker 47:30
mean like can men can men say like I got a big you know, say
Unknown Speaker 47:34
that all the time? Have you seen any of those fucking profiles? I don't I'm not on there. But oh my god. Yes. No, I'm polyamorous. So I have I can I generally try to not spread myself too thin. So I could have multiple partners and I can be in more than one romantic involvements at a time. But over the years, I've realized that I'm getting too old for that bullshit. And people are just way too demanding. How I'm 40 Yeah, I just turned 40 I know. It's so fucking
Unknown Speaker 48:02
No, it's not not I'm 33 and like, the older I get, I'm like, that's not so well. That's decimal.
Unknown Speaker 48:08
Yeah, wait until you turn 40 then you're like, what the fuck? Especially because, you know, this was my 40s I had so many plans and then we sat down jacked off and locked down so
Unknown Speaker 48:17
yeah, pandemic. Shit. Are you currently single? Are you seeing anyone?
Unknown Speaker 48:22
I am married. I've been married 14 years.
Unknown Speaker 48:24
Whoa, threw me for a loop there.
Unknown Speaker 48:27
All right. What the heck? Most of the time that's what happens. Yeah. What Yeah, yeah. And my husband is extremely vanilla. And of course I need him to anchor me to reality
Unknown Speaker 48:41
but he said you're polyamorous so is he okay with you having other partners? Of course he has to be otherwise what
Unknown Speaker 48:47
succeed around Yeah,
Unknown Speaker 48:48
sweet Well,
Unknown Speaker 48:50
he nobody has any time for him as hurt feelings. No, he's known what the deal was from for a very long time it works for us very well. It works for us to be more open I don't I couldn't imagine he had to he had to adapt though he had to adjust. I just couldn't imagine being monogamy is just not it's just not conducive for my for anything about the life I choose for myself. I just find it. I find that human beings are naturally not monogamous creatures sexually. I think we bond for life in the sense that we can find one life partner Yes, but sexually No, absolutely not. We're not. We're not monogamous.
Unknown Speaker 49:30
So where were you already in your line of work before you met your husband?
Unknown Speaker 49:35
I was I was a bodybuilder when I met him. So the kink started through bodybuilding for me. And so is he so when we came together we have very similar. We are vanilla ly was coincided. Yeah, yeah. Well, he
Unknown Speaker 49:50
must have a wonderful, wonderful personality if he's vanilla and
Unknown Speaker 49:55
Hello, you know, here's the thing. I he doesn't he's he's One of the people, like many others who don't like the labels, okay? And he doesn't necessarily like to talk about our private life. But if we were to be if we were or he were to be engaged in a conversation and someone were to mention kink, or bring up BDSM he's the first one to shut everyone up, but you shut the fuck up. You don't know what you're talking about. Don't ever bring that up again. It's not free new. Like, you see, it's but but he doesn't want to ever he doesn't ever want me to introduce him like that, like, Oh, this is my husband and he and I, you know, he, we live? It's a term it's called monogamous. BDSM. It's the thing you know what that means? nonnamous BDSM means that I engage in BDSM play with someone who is not I am not attached to so most of my partner's actually, all of my partners are kink, and my husband, he's all everything that is, you know, conventional and traditional. I try to reserve for that life with him. Yeah. So I mean, your
Unknown Speaker 51:02
partners are purely sexual and your husband is on an emotional, mental and intimate. Like, situation. No,
Unknown Speaker 51:09
no. Pretty sexual with everybody.
Unknown Speaker 51:12
Oh, okay.
Unknown Speaker 51:14
Emotional, emotional, I'd like to say that I reserve a place for him, because in certain lifestyles, alternative lifestyles, you'll see that if you are to venture outside the the, the the monogamy, the tradition of monogamy, you'll see that I'm sorry, my dogs are noisy for two seconds. Okay. So. So basically, couples that venture outside of that, you'll see that the woman always in order to maintain some semblance of like, happiness, and at home, you have to be able to compartmentalize and that is well, meaning that he will always be my primary, if that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah, he'll always be the primary. And everybody else takes a backseat to him and what he needs basically because I do come home to him at night, even though we didn't have a situation when I had a significant, one of my partners, I had actually a girlfriend and a boyfriend and all of us live together. Me the husband, the girlfriend and the boyfriend. Are you kidding?
Unknown Speaker 52:26
I kid you not. Oh, that sounds like like an episode of like, a reality TV series that I would like to watch.
Unknown Speaker 52:34
Well, they call them poly households. Oh, okay. Yeah, that's appalling household. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 52:39
And how did that How long did that work out? Before things went awry?
Unknown Speaker 52:42
Well, it worked. It worked out for about three years. But I learned a lot from that dynamic, I really did. And I set some boundaries for myself based on that relationship on that particular incident in time, because I realized just how taxing it was on me emotionally and how taxing it was on on my spouse, and how I don't necessarily like people to feel like I'm not giving them the time and attention they deserve. Yeah, I am alpha in my household. So I am the one who calls all the shots, and it is what it is.
Unknown Speaker 53:18
And maybe having spread too thin. emotionally.
Unknown Speaker 53:22
Yes, I just I couldn't do it. It was eating me alive. And it was just too much work. Because I care for these people. And I don't want anyone to feel like that. Like they don't matter. But but then having to get it's like having to have a schedule. You spend this much time with this person. And and as much as these hobbies you do with that person, it was just
Unknown Speaker 53:41
because you said already that you're a very loving giving person. So regardless of being alpha, I feel very similar in that sense. I don't think I'm the alpha of my relationship. But I do think I'm an alpha female in society. But I'm also very loving and very giving and very affectionate. So I can see how you'd want to be like lovey, lovey, lovey, lovey, lovey, lovey, and then just just like, at the end of the day, Okay, I'm done.
Unknown Speaker 54:04
I know. It's just exhausting, exhausting, so
Unknown Speaker 54:07
much love, all the love.
Unknown Speaker 54:09
Yeah, it's just exhausting. But um, I mean, it's, it's, it teaches you something about yourself and about your principles. And I think that that's where I think I lost my way with the job. The job sort of did in a way. It's fused different aspects of different types of dynamics into one big mess for me, and I needed to kind of reconnect with my roots because I grew up very, very conservative. I come from patriarchal society, father's head of household, like I said, I went to an all girl Catholic school. So to come out of a community like that in a society like that and be and I didn't even make a conscious decision to live this life. It sort of just unfolded for me, based on the decisions that I made along the way. Yeah, it was very organic. Yes,
Unknown Speaker 54:56
I feel the same exact way. So how do How did you get into fighting? Wow, like, I'm like, I didn't wake up one day and be like, I'm gonna be a cage fighter. It was like, you know, I started wrestling. I was a tomboy. I wrestled at early age and I got into college wrestling and then someone asked me if I wanted to do MMA, and it just you wake up one day and you're like, this is what I do for a living, you know, right.
Unknown Speaker 55:18
Where did Where did all the time though? Did this happen? Do you
Unknown Speaker 55:20
Okay, so is it. Am I crazy? or Do I hear an accent?
Unknown Speaker 55:24
You do hear an accent, okay.
Unknown Speaker 55:26
And I can't put my finger on it. But I'm like, there's just certain words. I'm like, there it is. There it is. Well, I
Unknown Speaker 55:31
enunciate a lot of my T's and my Rs. I am Lebanese born and raised. Okay, my mother's you're making my father's full blooded Lebanese. A lot of people think that the accent is from New York until they get to New York and they know it's not a New York accent. It's
Unknown Speaker 55:45
not one of us.
Unknown Speaker 55:46
No, no, I think I learned over the years to hide it a lot better. I think it's sort of his. Subconsciously you feel like over time, I don't even know at what point I lost my accent because I had a much heavier one. I think I can seal it very, very effectively until you hear me having lengthy conversations and then I'm trying to actually select my words. I'm sure that I'm structuring my because English is my third language so I'm trying to structure my sentences properly. Third
Unknown Speaker 56:17
language what other languages do you know?
Unknown Speaker 56:19
I speak Arabic and French. Oh,
Unknown Speaker 56:22
what was your first language?
Unknown Speaker 56:25
Arabic Lebanese? Well, Lebanese is like a it's like a hybrid of French English and and and slang Arabic that you can't exactly read or write Lebanese. Your
Unknown Speaker 56:36
voice is very sexy. So I think it's because it's the it's a little bit deeper. Like I think my you know, mine is a little bit deeper as well. But then it the accent gives it like a little sexy twinge to it.
Unknown Speaker 56:47
So because we speak from the diaphragm, you know, some people are more nasal and they speak more from the esophagus and comes it's like you emanate your voice from keys. That's what they say like the deeper the voices it comes more from your core. Yeah, yeah, I remember when I heard Brazilian women talk Jesus Christ.
Unknown Speaker 57:05
You say Brazilian women?
Unknown Speaker 57:06
Yeah. Oh, holy shit. A lot of times. They've got me beats. I'm like shit. A lot of reasons. I'm,
Unknown Speaker 57:12
you know, I'm around a lot of Brazilian high level athletes. And a lot of them have very deep voices.
Unknown Speaker 57:17
I know. Right? Yeah, they go up it's for sure.
Unknown Speaker 57:19
So I think we're at the time where we play a little game called Fuck, marry kill.
Unknown Speaker 57:31
Marry one kill one go.
Unknown Speaker 57:33
I think we're done. We're done here.
Unknown Speaker 57:35
Are you familiar with it? Okay.
Unknown Speaker 57:36
You you briefly introduced me to it over our screening. Okay,
Unknown Speaker 57:41
so I'm gonna tell you three names and you get to choose which one you want to fuck which one you want to marry? which one you want to kill? Okay. Okay, okay, so you got Dennis Rodman, Marilyn Manson and Trent Reznor.
Unknown Speaker 57:55
Okay, you have to tell me who this last person
Unknown Speaker 57:58
Oh Trent Reznor of Nine Inch Nails. Oh darn, okay.
Unknown Speaker 58:01
Okay. Okay. Okay, Kevin.
Unknown Speaker 58:03
You have to remember I'm a foreigner so there are going to be some times when I'm talking
Unknown Speaker 58:09
about you or what
Unknown Speaker 58:14
so I have Dennis Rodman I probably would suck Dennis Rodman, and Mary, Marilyn Manson. And I do have a weird golf streak. And, and plus, come on. He's an MIT grad. Of course, I'm gonna make fun of boys. I'm gonna go with that one. And the individual i didn't i didn't know about I suppose I would kill that one. All right. Yep. Put them on.
Unknown Speaker 58:44
Okay, and then we end the show with some fan questions.
Unknown Speaker 58:54
Are you ready?
Unknown Speaker 58:55
I'm ready. Okay, and
Unknown Speaker 58:56
some of these were like I don't even know what the heck that is. But at BH UTF gr thoughts on humiliation fetishes. Particularly? s pH
Unknown Speaker 59:09
as a small penis humiliation. There you go see all five minutes. That's what
Unknown Speaker 59:14
that stands for. Yeah,
Unknown Speaker 59:16
I should have Google that.
Unknown Speaker 59:18
Yep, I told you I told you it's the thing.
Unknown Speaker 59:21
So what are your thoughts on that? He wants to know
Unknown Speaker 59:24
um, well
Unknown Speaker 59:28
I know that I know if I know anything. If any woman knows anything, you know how married men are to their their their dates and and how a man a man's man his his entire demeanor and his attitude and his personality revolves around how he compares to men in the shower. And so a lot of times I think it's makes them feel the degradation. Some people get off on that degradation. They they've embraced the fact that they're probably never going to compare and to have a woman such as myself. Be able to bring that to light and with with my vernacular and my ability to be very, I can be extremely condescending. And so people people find me and seek me out specifically because I can just go above and beyond to put a man down because of that. And I will bring up every single thing that will make him feel extra insecure about it. And it actually does help a lot when you know, I am a size Queen, I am definitely in size. I'm going to talk about that. And the fact that you know, it's never that that's never going to do it. For me, that also is like an extra, that's pretty much the nail in the coffin, the fact that you will never ever be able to, to service or please or fulfill the needs that I have, because you are so inadequate. Yeah, and that doesn't trim. Now the psychology behind that probably might have come from his upbringing. Maybe he had a parent, you know, who was maybe he had the mother, the mother put him down too much, or the Father, you know, was more endowed than he was and it's, it's sort of just developed into an insecurity.
Unknown Speaker 1:01:03
Interesting, okay. at Palm fifth palmo 53 wants to know, most common BJJ hold clients want to be put in and why is it the triangle choke? What if he phrased that for the most common jujitsu hold that clients want to be put in? And while he's saying and why is it the triangle choke? He's assuming that I guess the triangle
Unknown Speaker 1:01:27
Well, the triangle choke is clearly because you know, he gets to have his face so close to my nether region. Yes. I guess the said there for as long as he likes while I taunt and tease him and tell him you know, and he gets to sniff me for a good bit. So it's a it's an aphrodisiac being down there. I mean, I generally put them in holds and I don't finish them obviously for good you know, so they continue to Taunton cheese with the verbiage and meet them awake. I've been I mean, and also you know, the scissor scissor sessions it's a service people guys like the front and head scissor they like the like reverse hat scissors anything to triangle for related they just want to be down there and they think that booking such a session is probably the closest they'll get to my snatch.
Unknown Speaker 1:02:07
Now is that what you were talking about earlier when you said like edging like you could just like squeeze so tight that maybe he just passes out?
Unknown Speaker 1:02:15
Well, more so let's say of the knockouts because some guys do book just to get knocked out What? Oh, yeah. Oh my god. Very, very, very
Unknown Speaker 1:02:24
unsightly up for brain damage.
Unknown Speaker 1:02:27
Exactly. But I will if I will only do it twice in the course of a session. Some guys want to operate without safe words. They have been but I like to, I like to prolong the misery make it really worth it. So I'll put up a mirror and then put them seed them and bind them in front of the mirror. And then I will just I'll generally use the rear naked choke. So then when I sink it in, and they can they so that when the fight or flight kicks in, they can actually see themselves Yeah, and see they see themselves in the mirror and then they're tapping but you never really let them go. That's an ozone once they go to the mirror. Oh, it's fucking sucks. it's exhilarating. it's exhilarating for me as well, because they're just it's it's just so different than when you're engaged in. In sports like I am generally when I'm on the mats, I promise you not one time and is so crazy. It's never even. I never even have like visions of my work or or flashbacks. Or, in fact, it took me a while to be able to actually finish any chokes from the mountains. It was very difficult for me when I first started jujitsu.
Unknown Speaker 1:03:29
Yeah, yeah, Mount choice from the
Unknown Speaker 1:03:31
National fucks given but then back then I had to find my company, I had to find that a comfortable place because I could never justify putting someone to sleep Unless, you know, I was doing it for some kind of an emotional release. Like if they needed it. Yeah, I understand. Yeah. So it was very difficult for me to find my footing as an athlete to be able to deliver, you know, a submission or finish without without compromising a position and thinking about it too long because I don't want to put them out because it's not because it because I'm wired to feel that I should only be subjecting someone to something like that. If it were if it were requested.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:09
Yeah, so yeah, that's a that's a hiccup in jujitsu, for sure.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:15
It was very difficult.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:16
It's so funny. It's like, Oh, you know, like the just because, you know, you're so you know, aesthetically, what's the word I'm looking for? Like, intimidating that you're just, you know, if you and I were gonna roll, and then you're like, Oh, I don't want to hurt you. I'd be like, but
Unknown Speaker 1:04:33
no, I don't hold on. I don't pull that bullshit anymore. He just wants to roll with a black belt does that exactly.
Unknown Speaker 1:04:37
So you mentioned a safe word earlier at Vic underscore memories says what is your go to safe word and what is the strangest, funniest one you've ever heard?
Unknown Speaker 1:04:49
Well, I don't usually I don't get too extravagant with safe words. They should be very short. And they should be something that they can remember because anytime they want to. They want a super casual realistic expectations where they never remember that shit when it actually comes to them for you know we have a we have a problem on our hands so yeah read that's it the red that's just a for it I generally give them the safe word I don't let them get too creative okay you have to remember it when they need to yeah ever
Unknown Speaker 1:05:18
got it okay at Joseph blades wants to know and I have a feeling I know the answer because you're a size queen is five and a half inches a good size.
Unknown Speaker 1:05:28
If he knows how to work it I'm not gonna I'm not gonna put him down if he knows how to work what he's got. You know, at the end of the day, I might like a big one but hey, if you if you if you're a little guy and you can work that ship, okay. Yeah, okay,
Unknown Speaker 1:05:39
that's true motion of the ocean right?
Unknown Speaker 1:05:41
Exactly.
Unknown Speaker 1:05:43
Look at lift and carry fan. Oh, this guy is made for you. Here we go. heaviest mail she has ever carried around and how
Unknown Speaker 1:05:52
I had a god oh my god. Yes. This one. He played football for Notre Dame Who? young kid. He was about 340 pounds. The most I was able to do was maybe just let his his feet just barely left the ground. Wood on the fire. lincare Oh, oh my god. Yeah, I was just, but he's so tall that you know, it wasn't really all. I didn't think it was all that impressive. So he ended up carrying me around for the rest of the session. Do you? I'm like, Hey, you know, I wasn't getting to turn you down. But you got to be a little realistic, dude. Just a little bit.
Unknown Speaker 1:06:29
Yeah, that's a big boy. Do you get I mean, I'm assuming you wear like a like a weightlifting belt for those sessions.
Unknown Speaker 1:06:36
If I remember to bring it. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 1:06:39
Man, he did jujitsu practice. And you're like, I threw my back out? How 300 pound boy. Okay, yeah, that's a new one. Yeah. All right. Last question. ocean side, oh, nine to zero wants to know, how often do you get requests to peg a man?
Unknown Speaker 1:06:57
Very often, it's, it is a lot more common than most people think. And it is a forte of mine. I am in fact, a lot of the content that I've recently been putting out there as all mostly strap on related. I enjoyed in my personal life. It's something I I'm very fond of. And so I enjoy it. When I can connect with a client. And it's a fun time for the both of us. Sure, I do deliver it as a service. And a lot of times, you know, there's no attachment whatsoever, they just need to get fucked, okay. But a lot of times, if the play is right, and the energy is right, and I know the person and we've been doing it a while it can get really exciting, it can be very exciting.
Unknown Speaker 1:07:39
So you said that that's something that you enjoy? This is my question, you know, I just can't get off the phone with you. But what's a service that you really don't enjoy? The probably like the bodily fluids and whatnot are?
Unknown Speaker 1:07:53
Well, those are rare, though. It's very hard for me to piss on commands, even though I do it. But I make sure that I'm very well hydrated for my for my golden hours. So okay, it just might take me a second because I got to wrap my head around that sometimes. And plus, you know, I am just such a cleanliness freak. So I need to make sure that there's a tarp or when the tub or Yeah, I mean, I'm not unless you know, we're in a dungeon type setting and then you know, hey, you can just you can just unleash the sprinklers, then it's difference.
Unknown Speaker 1:08:20
Do you work out of the dungeon? Or do you have a private facility,
Unknown Speaker 1:08:25
I have a space at home and i and i don't i don't use really I don't use the commercial space. I don't use the dungeon space. No, I because I don't believe in giving a cut of my money to anyone so much hands on. And I'd like to make my own money and keep my money. And so but in this business, you learned that there's there. So by the end, at the end of the day, if you don't really know how to manage the business, you end up with very little of what you make, because you have to pay outs, there's so much pay out that goes to everybody involved. And so, but most of the time, the clients like to book their own suite. So they book the book, they book rooms for me and then they they and I and I deliver a service on an outcall in calls basically come to me and of course I go to them.
Unknown Speaker 1:09:10
I'll call sounds so much easier. Yeah, it is unless you have to
Unknown Speaker 1:09:14
travel far and wide by charge. So if I'm if I'm traveling, then that's extra.
Unknown Speaker 1:09:20
So is this is this a job that you can see yourself doing for 510 20 more years?
Unknown Speaker 1:09:26
You know, two years ago, I announced my retirement and I went back to school to finish a PhD in math. Wow. And so ever since I did that, I realized that there was a big part of me that was missing. And not not just you know, the fact that it was very nice to be so financially stable. But also because it's so difficult for me to find partners or play partners on a regular basis. I didn't realize that I was getting even though it was like secondhand smoke. I was really getting a fixed through the job. Mm hmm. And even if it wasn't on a personal level or there wasn't an intimate connection or it wasn't sexual per se for me, but it does feed certain a certain need and me like I do needs to engage in certain in this in this power exchange but with a man I enjoy it. And so, um
Unknown Speaker 1:10:14
yeah, Dominic, you are interesting as fuck and I could talk to you all night but we're wrapping up I don't mind. What Where can we find you on all social medias? I know I think you haven't only fans correct?
Unknown Speaker 1:10:29
Yes, I just started only fans, we have tons of the strap on content that I had mentioned earlier that's going to be released being trickled onto that site. So it's only fans forward slash Dominic danger. I had a Twitter feed that I'm just recently now trying to build back up because they shut me down with 100 plus thousand followers. So most of my engagement right now is on the on the Instagram platform. So it's Dominic underscore danger. Okay, and his book is forward slash SR steel.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:03
Don't try and find her on Tinder or Bumble because she got cut. All right.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:10
Thank you so much for dog have
Unknown Speaker 1:11:14
to let you back in maybe you'll be on suspension for a while. No, it's
Unknown Speaker 1:11:17
done. Okay.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:19
Well, let's check her out on all those other platforms are only fans. I'm sure there is awesome content on there. Thank you so much. Hopefully, we'll have you back on in the future. I love to follow you. And if you're you know, hopefully Jiu Jitsu starts up again. I will love to watch your career. And love to watch you compete someday.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:38
Yes, I know. And I look for your fight. It's in a week.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:40
Yeah, one week. It's crazy.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:42
Thank you so much. You're like no pun intended. Yeah, no,
Unknown Speaker 1:11:45
break her leg.
Unknown Speaker 1:11:48
Alright, have a good night. You too. Thank
Unknown Speaker 1:11:50
you Bye.
Unknown Speaker 1:12:16
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Unknown Speaker 1:12:36
Okay, well, my mind is blown. But it's a very good way. I learned so much just now. And if you didn't learn anything new then you want Kiki bitch. I'm actually a little surprised to find out how nice and easy going she was. I guess I'm guilty of judging a book by its cover. And that's not nice. I know, my bad. We all do it. And it's hard not to sometimes I know. I'm probably looked at in a similar way tattoos, shaved head fighter. People be saying Oh, she must be a mean bitch or what? I think I'm pretty nice. I think we all need to be a little more accepting and try not to judge a book by its cover and all that. So I hope you guys enjoyed another episode of sex and violence with me, Rebel girl. Thank you so much for tuning in and for all your fan questions. rate and review the show and get a free sticker special thank you to audio engineer DJ zl at DJ Hazel tomorrow could studio at tomorrow kids official producer Nate Jackson at Nadir Domus and finest on Instagram at sex and violence with rebel girl and myself at Ashley MMA. Subscribe to this podcast and tune in next week to hear more tales of sex and violence.
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